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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Coffee shop approaches

Shivastorm_88

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How do you guys usually initiate the approach? I usually feel like I'm bothering if I don't have a legit excuse to approach :/

It's a shame because there are so many HBs in the coffee shops I usually go to study, it's insane
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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oneboy21

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You don't approach them at coffee shops, you will start a conversation. it should be natural not like intentional.
Not all coffee shops are friendly enough to approach, starbucks are worst.
I never had success at coffee shops.
 

Vice

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I've gotten a lay out of a Starbucks.

I was reading a book, and I overheard the girl say something to her friend so I commented on it. We ended up talking, and I got her email. Added her on Facebook (This was last summer when I still had one) and we went out, and ended up sleeping together on the first date.

It can be done; you need to look for opportunities. Or the classic "Hey I saw you over here and wanted to meet you" will work great if you're good at direct game and making your intentions clear. Or you can ask her what she's reading/studying.

Coffee shops were my prime hunting grounds before I turned 21, and I'm thinking about going back to them when the cold weather comes around.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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oneboy21

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Women don't stick them selves to their computer, book stores are larger in size. you will see more women coming in and going out.
 

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I do pretty awesome at coffee shops. Honestly, do you think she can't crack her book / laptop and read at home? maybe she's there to study AND possibly meet someone. Trick is what ESPI mentioned. Just be subtle and start talking about something. I prefer to be less direct in those settings because if she doesn't like you and you can read the subtle signs of that then it's simple enough to stop talking without making you or her uncomfortable. If she does then it should be easy enough to tell that through reading of her body language as well. I like to think myself an interesting person and get curious about other people which people are happy to talk about (talk about themselves) when they share something you can too, that's how you build a connection.
 
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