"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Coffee shop approaches

Shivastorm_88

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How do you guys usually initiate the approach? I usually feel like I'm bothering if I don't have a legit excuse to approach :/

It's a shame because there are so many HBs in the coffee shops I usually go to study, it's insane
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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oneboy21

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You don't approach them at coffee shops, you will start a conversation. it should be natural not like intentional.
Not all coffee shops are friendly enough to approach, starbucks are worst.
I never had success at coffee shops.
 

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I've gotten a lay out of a Starbucks.

I was reading a book, and I overheard the girl say something to her friend so I commented on it. We ended up talking, and I got her email. Added her on Facebook (This was last summer when I still had one) and we went out, and ended up sleeping together on the first date.

It can be done; you need to look for opportunities. Or the classic "Hey I saw you over here and wanted to meet you" will work great if you're good at direct game and making your intentions clear. Or you can ask her what she's reading/studying.

Coffee shops were my prime hunting grounds before I turned 21, and I'm thinking about going back to them when the cold weather comes around.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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oneboy21

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Women don't stick them selves to their computer, book stores are larger in size. you will see more women coming in and going out.
 

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I do pretty awesome at coffee shops. Honestly, do you think she can't crack her book / laptop and read at home? maybe she's there to study AND possibly meet someone. Trick is what ESPI mentioned. Just be subtle and start talking about something. I prefer to be less direct in those settings because if she doesn't like you and you can read the subtle signs of that then it's simple enough to stop talking without making you or her uncomfortable. If she does then it should be easy enough to tell that through reading of her body language as well. I like to think myself an interesting person and get curious about other people which people are happy to talk about (talk about themselves) when they share something you can too, that's how you build a connection.
 
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