Solomon
Master Don Juan
anybody dealt with this before, how do you handle this? I'm thinking about taking my profile down, thoughts?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Co-workers on POF
- Thread starter Solomon
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
You don't need to take your profile down because you saw your co-worker Period.
you are there to find chicks, you do your search.
you are there to find chicks, you do your search.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
What's the coworker gonna do? Make fun of you for looking for a date on the same site where he/she is doing the same thing?
I saw some coworkers on OK Cupid. I blocked them (I think).
I saw some coworkers on OK Cupid. I blocked them (I think).
that reminds me of the time i logged on to okcupid and right underneath where it says: these women are interested in you!
Was a photo of my little sister!?!?!? (among other okcupid chicks)
got a good laugh at that.
when I saw her at thanksgiving I said hi there ****** (her okcupid name) and her eyes got huge and she yelled "shut up!"
heh heh
Was a photo of my little sister!?!?!? (among other okcupid chicks)
got a good laugh at that.
when I saw her at thanksgiving I said hi there ****** (her okcupid name) and her eyes got huge and she yelled "shut up!"
heh heh
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
I've bumped into co-workers, ex classmates, ex girlfriends.
Always awkward at first, but then... meh
I've got my profile hidden right now and I think that's the way i'll keep it. Not like girls really initiate messages so what's there to lose?
Always awkward at first, but then... meh
I've got my profile hidden right now and I think that's the way i'll keep it. Not like girls really initiate messages so what's there to lose?