Solomon
Master Don Juan
anybody dealt with this before, how do you handle this? I'm thinking about taking my profile down, thoughts?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Co-workers on POF
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
You don't need to take your profile down because you saw your co-worker Period.
you are there to find chicks, you do your search.
you are there to find chicks, you do your search.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
What's the coworker gonna do? Make fun of you for looking for a date on the same site where he/she is doing the same thing?
I saw some coworkers on OK Cupid. I blocked them (I think).
I saw some coworkers on OK Cupid. I blocked them (I think).
that reminds me of the time i logged on to okcupid and right underneath where it says: these women are interested in you!
Was a photo of my little sister!?!?!? (among other okcupid chicks)
got a good laugh at that.
when I saw her at thanksgiving I said hi there ****** (her okcupid name) and her eyes got huge and she yelled "shut up!"
heh heh
Was a photo of my little sister!?!?!? (among other okcupid chicks)
got a good laugh at that.
when I saw her at thanksgiving I said hi there ****** (her okcupid name) and her eyes got huge and she yelled "shut up!"
heh heh
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
I've bumped into co-workers, ex classmates, ex girlfriends.
Always awkward at first, but then... meh
I've got my profile hidden right now and I think that's the way i'll keep it. Not like girls really initiate messages so what's there to lose?
Always awkward at first, but then... meh
I've got my profile hidden right now and I think that's the way i'll keep it. Not like girls really initiate messages so what's there to lose?