Solomon
Master Don Juan
anybody dealt with this before, how do you handle this? I'm thinking about taking my profile down, thoughts?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Co-workers on POF
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
You don't need to take your profile down because you saw your co-worker Period.
you are there to find chicks, you do your search.
you are there to find chicks, you do your search.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
What's the coworker gonna do? Make fun of you for looking for a date on the same site where he/she is doing the same thing?
I saw some coworkers on OK Cupid. I blocked them (I think).
I saw some coworkers on OK Cupid. I blocked them (I think).
that reminds me of the time i logged on to okcupid and right underneath where it says: these women are interested in you!
Was a photo of my little sister!?!?!? (among other okcupid chicks)
got a good laugh at that.
when I saw her at thanksgiving I said hi there ****** (her okcupid name) and her eyes got huge and she yelled "shut up!"
heh heh
Was a photo of my little sister!?!?!? (among other okcupid chicks)
got a good laugh at that.
when I saw her at thanksgiving I said hi there ****** (her okcupid name) and her eyes got huge and she yelled "shut up!"
heh heh
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
I've bumped into co-workers, ex classmates, ex girlfriends.
Always awkward at first, but then... meh
I've got my profile hidden right now and I think that's the way i'll keep it. Not like girls really initiate messages so what's there to lose?
Always awkward at first, but then... meh
I've got my profile hidden right now and I think that's the way i'll keep it. Not like girls really initiate messages so what's there to lose?