"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've been texting and talking to a woman on the phone I met on OLD, but it seems she is no longer responding to me. How can I salvage this? I really like her. Should I wait to contact her, and if so, for how long? She is a single mother, and I know she is especially busy this time of year with the holidays. Tomorrow is her birthday. Should I contact her late in the day tomorrow and wish her a happy birthday, or wait longer to contact her?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The point of online dating is to either meet up for long-term dating, get their guts rearranged in casual dating (lol), or just get validation. It rarely turns into a pen-pal situation.

If you haven’t asked her out yet, chances are someone else has taken your top spot.

If you were the last one to message her, I wouldn’t double-text, not even for a birthday. However, if she does reach out, make sure to ask her out soon. Also, talk to more women so you do not get oneitis, gain outcome independence, and prevent a scarcity mentality.
 
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Next.

Especially on OLD the turnover is huge. You gotta escalate fast.

You can always throw a hailmary and CALL her...just don't expect anything from it
 
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Ironically the way that works best is by not trying to salvage it and work on finding other women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Straight up troll. He mentions all the triggers to incite a riot from this forum!
 
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Her interest level isn't high enough. There is nothing to salvage. Find more girls.

How long did you spend talking to her?
 
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