Clueless about hunting grounds

[MeticulousSlob]

I live in the suburbs of Kansas City and have for some time. I am 29, and I spend my evenings playing video games and looking at porn (just looking at ladies, but I digress). I feel down and missing out. I want to practice approaching women but am clueless about how to go about it, specifically I don't know where to find them.

On top of all this, I am mildly autistic, which here just means I loathe going to noisy places with a lot of strangers making idle conversation that lasts hours. I can and have pushed myself into such situations but I get burned out easily and need a few nights to recover.

If you must know, I've only gone on about 5 first dates in my life, none of which were attractive or even interesting.

Any tips would be appreciated.

 

[SW15]

You have a lot of personal improvement needs before you can even do approaches well. You need to cut out both video games and porn. Both video games and porn are sedation masking your woman life problems.

I once gave up porn and masturbation. It was difficult and I hear that video porn is more addictive than heroin.

The Autism/Asperger's is likely a difficult thing to get past.

Neurotypical is a part of this.

You also likely need to lift more weights.

Do you live with your parents? The KC suburbs are not good, like all suburbs. It's not good to be out in Overland Park trying to get your penis wet.

You could do approaches at the typical non-bar venues (bookstores, malls, grocery stores, gyms/fitness, street, parks, paths) but you'll probably need to be closer to Downtown Kansas City for this to materialize into anything.

You could look at co-ed sports leagues, but that's a challenge even for normies.

 

[Bingo-Player]

OP do you have an idea where you fit on the value scale ?

Unfortunately we now live in a world where absolutely every facet of attraction has been commoditized at every level

what this means is that you are effectively point scored on everything you have going for you and constantly compared to competitors

if you are good looking you get points , being tall , being in shape, money , status and the list goes on and on

All of the above cannot guarantee you will find a partner you actually enjoy spending time with ,but it does increase the likelihood of actually getting to that stage where you at least have the decsion

Give the limited information you have provided about yourself i would hazard a guess you score pretty low on points this doesn't mean you can't meet partners it just means you need to be very realistic about what you're going to get on the market

Women (even very low pointed ones) generally have a much simpler time attracting a partner because a large proportion of men will have sex and fall in love with anything that breathes

There is a lot of disappointment within the dating market not just for people who score poorly but even for people who score highly

Modern Dating is becoming a zero sum game , and therefore i would strongly advise not setting your hopes too highly

 

[TimothyPrice]

You could really use a real life mentor to help you. Doesn't have to be a great pickup artist, just a regular dude to help you get to square 1.

 

[TimothyPrice]

Lower your standards and get a slumpbuster or two under your belt.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I live in the suburbs of Kansas City and have for some time. I am 29, and I spend my evenings playing video games and looking at porn (just looking at ladies, but I digress). I feel down and missing out. I want to practice approaching women but am clueless about how to go about it, specifically I don't know where to find them.

On top of all this, I am mildly autistic, which here just means I loathe going to noisy places with a lot of strangers making idle conversation that lasts hours. I can and have pushed myself into such situations but I get burned out easily and need a few nights to recover.

If you must know, I've only gone on about 5 first dates in my life, none of which were attractive or even interesting.

Any tips would be appreciated.

Sorry, but posts like this annoy me (I know, personal problem).

How can you make a post seeking answers on where to find women, when women are literally EVERYWHERE you turn once you step outside?

The ultimate question is, do you have the BALLS to approach the women?

If you step outside right now, and you see an attractive women walking her dog...and she walks past your house.

Are you going to speak to her? Are you going to approach her?

Probably not.

Well, there you go right there.

When you go to the gas station, and you see an attractive woman pumping gas, are you going to approach her?

Probably not.

Woman are everywhere, bro.

You guys will come across 70 women throughout the course of your day, pay them NO mind, and then come to the forum and ask "where are all the women"?

Like c'monnn.

They are out there, now go out there and get'em.

 

[lost_blackbird]

On top of all this, I am mildly autistic, which here just means I loathe going to noisy places with a lot of strangers making idle conversation that lasts hours. I can and have pushed myself into such situations but I get burned out easily and need a few nights to recover.

Sucks, doesn't it. I suffer all of the same and I am also adverse to being touched in any way.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I live in the suburbs of Kansas City and have for some time. I am 29, and I spend my evenings playing video games and looking at porn (just looking at ladies, but I digress). I feel down and missing out. I want to practice approaching women but am clueless about how to go about it, specifically I don't know where to find them.

On top of all this, I am mildly autistic, which here just means I loathe going to noisy places with a lot of strangers making idle conversation that lasts hours. I can and have pushed myself into such situations but I get burned out easily and need a few nights to recover.

If you must know, I've only gone on about 5 first dates in my life, none of which were attractive or even interesting.

Any tips would be appreciated.

I would say the quicker you can dig yourself out of the hole of those weak habits of porn and video gaming.. The better it will be for you. From there, I would recommend finding or making some friends who are at where you want to be in life, and befriending them.. You'll gain way more from that then trying it all on your own. Ofc, you need to have some level of social game to be able to do that.. Otherwise, what will happen is, like many others, you'll end up paying some dudes online to hang out with them or who will coach you on how to be this person.. It can help too but you'll have to deal with these guys looking at you like you're a useless blob who they genuinelly want to help, but they won't ever really put you on their own level/befriend you. and if they feel like you're not making progress, they'll still convince you to pay them more to help. lol

 

[MeticulousSlob]

Thank you all for your input, I will consider very carefully all your advice.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I live in the suburbs of Kansas City and have for some time. I am 29, and I spend my evenings playing video games and looking at porn (just looking at ladies, but I digress). I feel down and missing out. I want to practice approaching women but am clueless about how to go about it, specifically I don't know where to find them.

On top of all this, I am mildly autistic, which here just means I loathe going to noisy places with a lot of strangers making idle conversation that lasts hours. I can and have pushed myself into such situations but I get burned out easily and need a few nights to recover.

If you must know, I've only gone on about 5 first dates in my life, none of which were attractive or even interesting.

Any tips would be appreciated.

Suburban MILFs

Also - regard them as women and not "ladies".