"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Closing the deal in college

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So im in college and party weekends etc. My issue isnt with talking to people or girls as this is no problem, its closing the deal.

Im having trouble isolating the girl and even then ive only gotten to kissing nothing more. Honestly i think part of it is a problem with hesitation with myself(social standards etc) What do u experienced college fellows use technique wise to get the *****?

Another issue is i get interest from women np but honestly im clueless even with how to get them over to my place to study or w/e. I get their numbers and then never call lol. ive got a full schedule (focused on getting into University of Washington for architectural school) so half the time i honestly cant be ****ed to bother with *****es.

Lately ive been more focused on classes and just being a smartass/social in class ive noticed increased attention from the females nearby(girl with her bf in the same class in my drawing class started always putting her bench next to mine) to name an example.

So id like some pointers on closing techniques or how i can just not give a **** straight up so ill stay outta my own head :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Borknagar

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If you've established a connection to where you're at least comfortable talk to them, ask them if they would like to come over and play mortal kombat and you'll bet you can kick their butt, and the winner gets to take a shot every time they win!

They'll laugh, and be like what the heck? but hey you're just being silly. Women like a random sense of humor! Or ask them if they wanna get drunk and wrestle, and see their response, what do you have to loose? If they're not interested, they'll look at you like you're a creep and say no, but who cares, next em.


Honestly, if a women is into you, she won't care what your goofy assed excuse is to get her over, she'll just laugh and be ok cool lets do this!
 

Kenny Powers

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hahaha i literally just posted a similar thread a second ago. I'm having the exact same problem, college should be so much easier. Let me know if you find anything that works.
 

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In college girls don’t want to be isolated they want to be noticed, and other guys want to be noticed by them. When in a bar or a party just talk louder than every guy in proximity, when you talk to a girl just say things that don’t make sense, this will confuse her more than she already was. Watching an episode of mating walrus rituals on the animal planet before your next outing will definitely prepare you for this mission. Be aware that this method only works in college, and in the zoo, don't try to use it once you finish school.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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