"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Close Grip problem

G Rambo34

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i was doing a close grip bench press yesterday, doing like 8 reps. i was doing it fast and all of a sudden my left shoulder cracked and shifted into a different postion. immdiatley i started feeling alot of pain and had to rack it up as my shoulder popped back into place. i now realized that this happened because i didnt position my elbows against my side. but now when i attept to do a military press my shoulder hurts coming down and when i do like a tricep pushdown my shoulder hurts, but there is no pain when i lift it up. anyway everything is fine, its just soreness now and everything feels back into place. but has anyone ever expericned this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Throttle

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sharp, shooting pain is nature's way of telling you to cut that the **** out.

stop all upper-body lifting, immediately, and investigate what really happened to your shoulder, take the time to make sure you know what happened & what will fix it. i suggest a doctor, this is the sort of thing they're good at.

if you insist on self-diagnosis, start here:

http://www2.vhi.ie/topic/shoulderinjury

ask crazyasian why trying to lift your way through a shoulder injury is a Bad Idea
 

G Rambo34

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basically what happened was i disloacted it and it immidiately popped back in. which is why it is sore today. should i not lift today?
 

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scroll down my link. a dislocated shoulder is nothing to sneeze at.
 

guayaballer

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I know what your talking about. The same exact thing happend to me when I was doing incline dumbell presses a while ago. it scared the **** out of me. I stopped lifting for a while and after 3 weeks I resumed lifting. I say warm up before lifting weights.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ecilop

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i agree with guaya although 3 weeks might be long if you're on a strict regimen.

the next session (try to give yourself a few days break, seems like it's been 2 days since this happens so maybe another day or two) start _really_ slow with low weights warming up, and start to up it from there. if everything seems normal, you should be good.

if it still hurts like a *****, i think a doctors visit is going to be worth it in the long-run so you dont seriously **** up anything and take months to fix
 
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