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DonJuanNJ81 said:End result?
I offed her today.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
DonJuanNJ81 said:End result?
I offed her today.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
woods said:I still have a huge bottle of Trazadone. It worked great for me as a sleeping aid. I could take a quarter of one and go right to sleep, even under hard stress. Im naturally an insomniac. I dont take them anymore, unless I have to get up super early, cuz cant sleep before 11:00 usually. Some people I know say it made them wired, though. No complaints from me though.
How long have you been taking benzos?? Try going cold turkey off them for 2 weeks and then come say they are not addictive.STR8UP said:And the alternative is a strong SSRI???
Benzos get a bad rap. I take Clonazepam. In all fairness, the SSRI's did help me with some social anxiety issues. I'll give 'em that. But the side effects....yikes.....
Highly addictive? That's debateble. The anti-benzo crowd would like for you to believe that. But I can tell you from personal experience that taken in moderation they likely aren't as addictive as coffee.
I take it maybe 5 times per week, mainly to help me sleep. They are SUPER cheap and have provided benefits that FAR outweigh any drawbacks (for me there are none).
That said......if someone pops them like tic-tacs they probably need to be taken away from them, just like with any drug.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
They are mainly used for anxiety and stress but they should never be prescribed for more than 2 weeks because after that you're hooked.Luveno said:I really don't get all this benzo defense.
They are exceptionally useful drugs for getting people out of seizures!
However, for simple things like sleep and relaxation, there are so many other better drugs or non-pharmacologic therapies.
As for whether I take or have taken benzos, the answer is no; I know what they can do to people if taken for an extended period of time.
Best thing to do if you want to sleep better is to go to the gym and eat healthily! Of course, this takes a lot of effort so people don't do it - everyone wants an insta-cure!
I have been on Clonozepam for a couple of years.My Name is Nobody said:How long have you been taking them? Try going cold turkey off them for 2 weeks, I bet you can't do it.
You guys REALLY have no idea what you are talking about.My Name is Nobody said:They are mainly used for anxiety and stress but they should never be prescribed for more than 2 weeks because after that you're hooked.
No, you have no clue. You fell for the same brainwashing that a lot of people have.Luveno said:As for whether I take or have taken benzos, the answer is no; I know what they can do to people if taken for an extended period of time.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
STR8UP said:You guys REALLY have no idea what you are talking about.
I haven't, and I likely won't for awhile. It helps me live a happier and more fulfilling life and allows me to get the proper amount of rest. I don't take it every day but I have no reason to stop taking it altogether.My Name is Nobody said:When is the last time you didn't take a benzo for 2 weeks?
I've taken that drug. My personal opinion, and that's all it is is a personal opinion, is that if you stop taking it and you don't feel any ill effects, it wasn't doing anything for you in the first place.STR8UP said:I haven't, and I likely won't for awhile. It helps me live a happier and more fulfilling life and allows me to get the proper amount of rest. I don't take it every day but I have no reason to stop taking it altogether.
If I don't take it for a few days at a time I have absolutely no craving for it. I'm no MD but if you're addicted to something I don't think you have to wait two weeks to get withdrawal symptoms.
I just have to laugh at people who have never taken the drug giving advice about the dangers of addiction. I've taken hydrocodone before. Now THAT is a drug that I can see the potential to become addicted to. Clonozepam....not so much so.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.