Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Clingy/needy women

betheman

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do they ever change? even with age? my last ltr was very clingy/needy etc. good fun and sexy but hard work at times.
what is the best dj strategy in dealing this these types? hit and run? as an ltr it went on further than it should and I handled the whole thing poorly.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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betheman said:
do they ever change? even with age? my last ltr was very clingy/needy etc. good fun and sexy but hard work at times.
what is the best dj strategy in dealing this these types? hit and run? as an ltr it went on further than it should and I handled the whole thing poorly.
Perhaps some examples of her behavior and your subsequent responses would help us understand your dilemma.
 

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I guess the best example was the phonecalls, we lived apart so when we werent together, she would ring, and spend at least an hour on the phone talking about anything and nothing, I swear id get in from work, get something to eat, do a few jobs, prep for work the next day but the rest of the evening was spent on the phone. we only lived 15 miles apart!
if ever I didnt answer there would be voicemail and a call later.
Im amazed I let that continue, never again!
she was very jealous, hated the idea I had a facebook account because everyone on facebook is having sex with each other?????
we always had to do things together, I couldnt do anything on my own , she had to be involved.
its not so much a dilemma, I can see where I went wrong in not curtailing some of this behaviour and I know why I didnt, I was too wussy.
I kept thinking she will calm down but it never did, this was a mature woman and not a teenager
 

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The only effective strategy in dealing with annoying women is permanent avoidance.

Anything else I can help you with?
 

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very good, the avoidance is now in situ!
never again!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Man, I had a deal like this a couple years ago.

She approaches me in a shoe store, sais "Do you like what you see?"

I say, "Yeah."

It was the dead of winter, so I couldn't really get a good fix on her body, but she was at least fit and cute. Well boys, I hit the paystreak that time-she was an ex-stripper and her body was smoking hot. Man, having sex with this girl was like being in a porn- it was fukking awesome. But it didn't take very long for her to start trying to assert herself into my life, she was a forceful b!tch who would claw me to death in bed, so bad that there was blood on the sheets in the morning. She was overly aggressive and constantly demanded my time. I gave her a good bit of myself, but it was never enough, she wanted me to crawl up her ass and pitch a tent.

On top of that, she had a doberman who absolutely had to sleep with us and she constantly chain-smoked. I knew it wasn't going anywhere, plus I was on a "break" from my main FB of the previous 5 years, but MAN was she a wild little vacation to take.

So I guess the moral of the story is, if she's pornstar hot, it might be worth it to take some **** for awhile just for the experience. If not, you gotta ask yourself, what the hell am I still in this for?
 

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"Man, having sex with this girl was like being in a porn- it was fukking awesome."

yup!!!!

I like being clawed to death, Im strange that way but I do like nails in my back and hard.
lol @ the pitch a tent up her arse! mine asked me to marry her ?? thats the mans job to ask I said...I had little intention of doing so, too much of a dodgy background.
Im in my 40's, got this too late in life, was married for 21 years previously.
where was this ****ing site when I was young!
 
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