"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Clingy girl after hookup

Jifto

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Some old college friends (Joe and Jane) and I decided to fly out to meet up with one of our other friends (Kelly) from back in the day. The four of us had a really fun weekend and Kelly and I ended up hooking up two of the nights. This never happened back in college (we were both in relationships). Kelly is cool, but I know a relationship wouldn't work with us (I'm just not into her like that, we live 10 hours apart, she's a bit too controlling for me). Everything seemed normal after we departed, but now Kelly is really clingy. She wants me to come out and visit again or fly out to visit me and is pressing on dates. She is texting me non stop and its overwhelming to me. We never spoke about dating or having feelings for one another, but I did compliment her several times that she was really pretty.

She's now booked a ticket to my city to visit Joe and Jane for a few weekends from now and is pressuring me to hang out. I've got a friend in town that weekend so I don't think our paths will cross. The tough part is Joe and Jane are really close to her too and we see each other quite often (but maintain our own lives). I've stopped responding quickly to messages and made it pretty clear I was busy for the next month or so with work so I couldn't fly out to see her again.

What do I do?

**tl;dr - Hooked up with old friend in distant land, now she is really clingy and wants to visit / incessantly texting.**
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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devilkingx2

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Bang her until she wants comittment then just say no, either she'll accept it or leave you alone
 

marmel75

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Just bang her. Guys make things way too difficult on themselves. When you are in a dry spell you will really wish you didn't pass up this opportunity. Let her chase you.
 
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IKO69

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You can **** with her by saying you hate clingyness, it's such a turn off. You know how often women ***** about that in men? ha ha ha ha ha
 
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