GaryUranga
Master Don Juan
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post "openers" for when youre in some class at college, other than "hi my names JC" lets see some humour, Im trying to find my standard class opener
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think in class non-verbal openers would work the best - less time, less noise, max attraction. For example - gesture her to wipe something off her face. Smile and continue C&F, introduce yourself etc.GaryUranga said:post "openers" for when youre in some class at college, other than "hi my names JC" lets see some humour, Im trying to find my standard class opener
yes, i think you get the idea.GaryUranga said:nice Ill try those, today Im in the bus and talkign to 2 girls and theyre infront of me and really into talkign to me, next to me is a hottie, I ask the 2 girls in front of me (who I met a couple of days ago) "so what looks better on me short hair or long hair?" they were into it, then I randomly open the hottie next to me "so what looks better on me short hair or long hair?" it went ok, she got off the bus liek 30 secs after I shoulda done it before
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Most people don't realize this. All these opening routines are simply a means of conveying state. If you truly believe that a simple hi would work, it WILL work. But putting out your BEST state in just a simple HI is a tough task. That is why openers exist.Arizona iced tea said:daygameguy, you seem to really know what you are doing
today i met a hb8 with just saying
me: hi, my name is ****.
HB: hi im ****
and she had a heavy east european accent so i asked where she was from... and we talked for about an hour between classes. i admit it isnt the fanciest opener, but done right it gets the job done.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
indeed, i figured it out this time, hopefully i can make it happen next timedaygameguy said:putting out your BEST state in just a simple HI is a tough task.
Here is a tip for a simple "hi" opener:Arizona iced tea said:indeed, i figured it out this time, hopefully i can make it happen next time![]()