GaryUranga
Master Don Juan
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post "openers" for when youre in some class at college, other than "hi my names JC" lets see some humour, Im trying to find my standard class opener
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I think in class non-verbal openers would work the best - less time, less noise, max attraction. For example - gesture her to wipe something off her face. Smile and continue C&F, introduce yourself etc.GaryUranga said:post "openers" for when youre in some class at college, other than "hi my names JC" lets see some humour, Im trying to find my standard class opener
yes, i think you get the idea.GaryUranga said:nice Ill try those, today Im in the bus and talkign to 2 girls and theyre infront of me and really into talkign to me, next to me is a hottie, I ask the 2 girls in front of me (who I met a couple of days ago) "so what looks better on me short hair or long hair?" they were into it, then I randomly open the hottie next to me "so what looks better on me short hair or long hair?" it went ok, she got off the bus liek 30 secs after I shoulda done it before
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most people don't realize this. All these opening routines are simply a means of conveying state. If you truly believe that a simple hi would work, it WILL work. But putting out your BEST state in just a simple HI is a tough task. That is why openers exist.Arizona iced tea said:daygameguy, you seem to really know what you are doing
today i met a hb8 with just saying
me: hi, my name is ****.
HB: hi im ****
and she had a heavy east european accent so i asked where she was from... and we talked for about an hour between classes. i admit it isnt the fanciest opener, but done right it gets the job done.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
indeed, i figured it out this time, hopefully i can make it happen next timedaygameguy said:putting out your BEST state in just a simple HI is a tough task.
Here is a tip for a simple "hi" opener:Arizona iced tea said:indeed, i figured it out this time, hopefully i can make it happen next time![]()