Chump laments that although his wife had had 50-100 sex partners before him, she sexes him only once every few months

[MatureDJ]

My wife has had more than 50 sexual partners – so why won’t she sleep with me?

After 12 years together, she told me how many people she had slept with before we met. It has made it harder for me to accept how rarely we have sex

www.theguardian.com

I’ve been with my wife for 12 years. She recently admitted she has had many more sexual partners than me, more than 50 for sure, but it could be 100. She has only had a couple of long-term relationships. I didn’t think the number bothered me: I didn’t know her then, it was before we got together and we can’t change the past. However, we hardly ever have sex (only once every three to four months) and her sex drive dropped off a cliff after our first child was born almost 10 years ago. She says it’s the stress of children but I can’t help feeling she just doesn’t find me attractive any more. Rightly or wrongly, I now feel upset that she was willing to have sex with so many people before me but doesn’t want to have sex with me.

 

[SW15]

He is a chump. Why marry someone with that high of a body count?

There's a good chance she is having sex elsewhere.

That sex frequency is unacceptable and he needs to exit.

 

[CBear]

That's why you figure out these things before you get married. I see multiple issues here that need to be addressed in order to avoid these things. A lot of men are dumb and ride the emotional train and focus on the present because its great at the moment and they forget about important things like this, thinking; its so great right now, why ruin something good? Well its because this information is important and if you choose not to know it, you're gambling your life like this guy, who'll never feel the same again because he started questioning why hes getting the ****ty end of the stick but thought that it was normal for the longest time (His complacency, laziness, and lack of motivation are his fault and finding this information out helped put things into perspective for him). That present that was great once upon a time won't be great later because you chose to ignore information and signs. That's what is meant with the quote "stay on your purpose". Don't get distracted by emotions to the point where you avoid confrontation or thinking about these things in your life. Men need to be a little more paranoid and stop getting complacent.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's called she chose the safe option to have kids with who will take care of her and the kids but who she has almost no attraction to.

 

[BaronOfHair]

He is a chump. Why marry someone with that high of a body count?

Hey, Karen Straughan(perhaps the most famous female Men's Rights Activist on Earth)has repeatedly boasted of being piped out by over a 100 guys prior to marrying her current husband, an engineer who's now bank rolling her keyboard warrioring and two or three kids that KS had sired by some other dude

Yet, it's hamam in large sections of The Manosphere to openly denounce her as a 304, and her current husband as a posterchild for all the sins Red Pill Theology denounces. Knowing "the right people" goes far towards insulating one from criticism

 

[Divorced w 3]

That’s why you slow down and then when you think you’ve slowed down enough you go a little slower. Nothing good comes from rushing.

 

[Gamisch]

That's why you figure out these things before you get married. I see multiple issues here that need to be addressed in order to avoid these things. A lot of men are dumb and ride the emotional train and focus on the present because its great at the moment and they forget about important things like this, thinking; its so great right now, why ruin something good? Well its because this information is important and if you choose not to know it, you're gambling your life like this guy, who'll never feel the same again because he started questioning why hes getting the ****ty end of the stick but thought that it was normal for the longest time (His complacency, laziness, and lack of motivation are his fault and finding this information out helped put things into perspective for him). That present that was great once upon a time won't be great later because you chose to ignore information and signs. That's what is meant with the quote "stay on your purpose". Don't get distracted by emotions to the point where you avoid confrontation or thinking about these things in your life. Men need to be a little more paranoid and stop getting complacent.

This!!!!

I've learned that as soon as a woman starts putting out its over . End of discussion.

We as men have a crooked view on sex and love. We have zero idea of the depth ( no pun intended) of a p00sy. A vagina might be waaaay more sensitive than a d1ck. Even IF a "femcel" exists ,she still gonna bleed once per month and is forced to take care down there ,unlike a man. Strange example but hey..

The present indeed is treacherous because it's an illusion of both the past and the future. Been there. The woman represents both his past AND his future while TODAY she ignores him. But tomorrow there's yet "another today". Fast forward 12 years later . With a woman that he(??) Should've left perhaps 10 or even 11 years ago...

A closer look teaches us that cheating in this case is " only natural " and basically has nothing to do with him ANYMORE..he's been little brothered long time ago

 

[BillyPilgrim]

It's called she chose the safe option to have kids with who will take care of her and the kids but who she has almost no attraction to.

That's one thing to call it. "Doing it for the kids when the pair-bonding is compromised to begin with and divorce with the beta at some point is unavoidable" is another.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's one thing to call it. "Doing it for the kids when the pair-bonding is compromised to begin with and divorce with the beta at some point is unavoidable" is another.

Meh, not big on the fancy terminology for things.

Women choose partners for many reasons, and one of them is for safety and security instead of love, which is actually what marriage started as to begin with.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Meh, not big on the fancy terminology for things.

Women choose partners for many reasons, and one of them is for safety and security instead of love, which is actually what marriage started as to begin with.

It’s interesting. It should be seen as a partnership, that I agree with. All these ideas that ‘love evolves’ - way over my head. But for some folks, ones I can point to, 50 + years is possible. I’m going to a 51 year wedding anniversary dinner Wednesday. They’re happy, if not in a clear designation of whom does what, but it works for them.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It’s interesting. It should be seen as a partnership, that I agree with. All these ideas that ‘love evolves’ - way over my head. But for some folks, ones I can point to, 50 + years is possible. I’m going to a 51 year wedding anniversary dinner Wednesday. They’re happy, if not in a clear designation of whom does what, but it works for them.

Many times they have just accepted living as roommates, which happens a lot more than you'd think.

 

[Mike32ct]

I wonder how his hair looks now versus 12 years ago when he got married.

 

[MatureDJ]

I wonder how his hair looks now versus 12 years ago when he got married.

HairMogging is brutal - thank goodness I have hair like Stalin.

 

[BadBoy89]

He is a chump. Why marry someone with that high of a body count?

Article said “she recently admitted”, he didn’t know before.

But why tell him now? And tell him when they are hardly having sex? Because it’s a power trip. Women get off on abusing men emotionally.

 

[SW15]

Article said “she recently admitted”, he didn’t know before.

He should have been able to figure out prior to marriage that she had an extensive partner count. He is a chump if he didn't figure that out.

Women get off on abusing men emotionally.

Toxic women get off on abusing men emotionally. A healthy woman will not go to those lengths. She might throw out some mild crap tests, but not emotional abuse.

A woman who has been pumped and dumped many times and had some failed relationships is more likely to have the trauma levels that would cause her to be emotionally abusive towards men.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I’m going to a 51 year wedding anniversary dinner Wednesday. They’re happy, if not in a clear designation of whom does what, but it works for them.

^^This is so nice to see! Your girl's parents?

I had a similar experience recently. Bf and I spent the day wandering around Seaport Village and the Marina a few Sundays ago, there was ALOT going on!

Came across an outdoor DJ playing some great dance tunes and there was one couple dancing up a storm!

They looked to be around 70ish.

They were singing to each other, maintained great eye contact, body movements and were in total sync dancing together! Lots of touching too, man spinning her around etc..

They ended up sitting next to us and we all started talking and I naively asked "you two look great together. Did you just meet"?

And the woman chuckled and said "no dear we've been married almost 50 years!