"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Chronically single vs. Chronically Divorced

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I have to say, one of the things I'm thankful for, although I've been without a girlfriend for a while...I kind of have to chuckle...but not in a sadistic fashion...at my friends' yo-yoing relationship statuses on Facebook.

Just saw a dude, got married I think a couple of years ago...VERY new marriage, and all of a sudden...he's "separated" likely divorce is pending.

Me and another single male friend got to talking about other people and I recall this one guy who was dating, and they even moved in together this real hot 40-something Brazilian woman. Found out recently broke up, and she's on to a new guy already.

You tend to find out these things in your social circles and you can sympathize, but really....when hearing this you don't feel so bad about being single.

I mean think about it....for instance, let's say you've been unattached for 5 to 6 years, and your friends hook up, date each other for 2 years, then BOOM, they are broken up.

It's amazing the frequency of how many of my friends go in and out of very short term relationships or even marriages. The marriages REALLY make me wonder.

It's like "Great I haven't had a g/f in 6 years, but...I could be THOSE guys who probably had gone through the gauntlet of turmoil and heart ache"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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skinnyguy

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It's a social expectation.

Last night I fvcked an HB 7.5 and she kept asking me if I was married. Now I'm as single as can be and look younger than my age but she just expected me to be married. If you hit 30 you think oh crap gotta tie the knot now and make bad decisions.


Luckily I don't feel the need to get married right now. Being single for a long time isn't that bad when you consider the downsides of marriage.
 

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It's a social expectation.

Last night I fvcked an HB 7.5 and she kept asking me if I was married. Now I'm as single as can be and look younger than my age but she just expected me to be married. If you hit 30 you think oh crap gotta tie the knot now and make bad decisions.


Luckily I don't feel the need to get married right now. Being single for a long time isn't that bad when you consider the downsides of marriage.
I'm also talking about just relationships in general. I have to laugh at these short term (2 to 3 year) relationships that fizzle quickly during the course of my long dry spell without women.
 

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I have to say, one of the things I'm thankful for, although I've been without a girlfriend for a while...I kind of have to chuckle...but not in a sadistic fashion...at my friends' yo-yoing relationship statuses on Facebook.

Just saw a dude, got married I think a couple of years ago...VERY new marriage, and all of a sudden...he's "separated" likely divorce is pending.

Me and another single male friend got to talking about other people and I recall this one guy who was dating, and they even moved in together this real hot 40-something Brazilian woman. Found out recently broke up, and she's on to a new guy already.

You tend to find out these things in your social circles and you can sympathize, but really....when hearing this you don't feel so bad about being single.

I mean think about it....for instance, let's say you've been unattached for 5 to 6 years, and your friends hook up, date each other for 2 years, then BOOM, they are broken up.

It's amazing the frequency of how many of my friends go in and out of very short term relationships or even marriages. The marriages REALLY make me wonder.

It's like "Great I haven't had a g/f in 6 years, but...I could be THOSE guys who probably had gone through the gauntlet of turmoil and heart ache"
Agreed 100%

A friend of mine told me: '' It's when you are in a LTR that you wish you were single.''

I remember alot of people in LTR wishing to be ''free''

I've been single for 2 years... don't regret it at all... sure some LTR stuff I miss but damn I am free.

Also, I believe alot of people in our generations or time... don't have the will to ''committ'' or to ''adapt'' ... they break apart at the first symptoms of fight, lost of ''lust'', and where they have to ''adapt/compromise''

LTR are 2 people, so you always have to consider the other... alot of people fail at that now.

What is important is that you are happy in your situation
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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