"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Chronically single vs. Chronically Divorced

ThisNThat

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I have to say, one of the things I'm thankful for, although I've been without a girlfriend for a while...I kind of have to chuckle...but not in a sadistic fashion...at my friends' yo-yoing relationship statuses on Facebook.

Just saw a dude, got married I think a couple of years ago...VERY new marriage, and all of a sudden...he's "separated" likely divorce is pending.

Me and another single male friend got to talking about other people and I recall this one guy who was dating, and they even moved in together this real hot 40-something Brazilian woman. Found out recently broke up, and she's on to a new guy already.

You tend to find out these things in your social circles and you can sympathize, but really....when hearing this you don't feel so bad about being single.

I mean think about it....for instance, let's say you've been unattached for 5 to 6 years, and your friends hook up, date each other for 2 years, then BOOM, they are broken up.

It's amazing the frequency of how many of my friends go in and out of very short term relationships or even marriages. The marriages REALLY make me wonder.

It's like "Great I haven't had a g/f in 6 years, but...I could be THOSE guys who probably had gone through the gauntlet of turmoil and heart ache"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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skinnyguy

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It's a social expectation.

Last night I fvcked an HB 7.5 and she kept asking me if I was married. Now I'm as single as can be and look younger than my age but she just expected me to be married. If you hit 30 you think oh crap gotta tie the knot now and make bad decisions.


Luckily I don't feel the need to get married right now. Being single for a long time isn't that bad when you consider the downsides of marriage.
 

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It's a social expectation.

Last night I fvcked an HB 7.5 and she kept asking me if I was married. Now I'm as single as can be and look younger than my age but she just expected me to be married. If you hit 30 you think oh crap gotta tie the knot now and make bad decisions.


Luckily I don't feel the need to get married right now. Being single for a long time isn't that bad when you consider the downsides of marriage.
I'm also talking about just relationships in general. I have to laugh at these short term (2 to 3 year) relationships that fizzle quickly during the course of my long dry spell without women.
 

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I have to say, one of the things I'm thankful for, although I've been without a girlfriend for a while...I kind of have to chuckle...but not in a sadistic fashion...at my friends' yo-yoing relationship statuses on Facebook.

Just saw a dude, got married I think a couple of years ago...VERY new marriage, and all of a sudden...he's "separated" likely divorce is pending.

Me and another single male friend got to talking about other people and I recall this one guy who was dating, and they even moved in together this real hot 40-something Brazilian woman. Found out recently broke up, and she's on to a new guy already.

You tend to find out these things in your social circles and you can sympathize, but really....when hearing this you don't feel so bad about being single.

I mean think about it....for instance, let's say you've been unattached for 5 to 6 years, and your friends hook up, date each other for 2 years, then BOOM, they are broken up.

It's amazing the frequency of how many of my friends go in and out of very short term relationships or even marriages. The marriages REALLY make me wonder.

It's like "Great I haven't had a g/f in 6 years, but...I could be THOSE guys who probably had gone through the gauntlet of turmoil and heart ache"
Agreed 100%

A friend of mine told me: '' It's when you are in a LTR that you wish you were single.''

I remember alot of people in LTR wishing to be ''free''

I've been single for 2 years... don't regret it at all... sure some LTR stuff I miss but damn I am free.

Also, I believe alot of people in our generations or time... don't have the will to ''committ'' or to ''adapt'' ... they break apart at the first symptoms of fight, lost of ''lust'', and where they have to ''adapt/compromise''

LTR are 2 people, so you always have to consider the other... alot of people fail at that now.

What is important is that you are happy in your situation
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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