"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Chronically single vs. Chronically Divorced

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I have to say, one of the things I'm thankful for, although I've been without a girlfriend for a while...I kind of have to chuckle...but not in a sadistic fashion...at my friends' yo-yoing relationship statuses on Facebook.

Just saw a dude, got married I think a couple of years ago...VERY new marriage, and all of a sudden...he's "separated" likely divorce is pending.

Me and another single male friend got to talking about other people and I recall this one guy who was dating, and they even moved in together this real hot 40-something Brazilian woman. Found out recently broke up, and she's on to a new guy already.

You tend to find out these things in your social circles and you can sympathize, but really....when hearing this you don't feel so bad about being single.

I mean think about it....for instance, let's say you've been unattached for 5 to 6 years, and your friends hook up, date each other for 2 years, then BOOM, they are broken up.

It's amazing the frequency of how many of my friends go in and out of very short term relationships or even marriages. The marriages REALLY make me wonder.

It's like "Great I haven't had a g/f in 6 years, but...I could be THOSE guys who probably had gone through the gauntlet of turmoil and heart ache"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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skinnyguy

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It's a social expectation.

Last night I fvcked an HB 7.5 and she kept asking me if I was married. Now I'm as single as can be and look younger than my age but she just expected me to be married. If you hit 30 you think oh crap gotta tie the knot now and make bad decisions.


Luckily I don't feel the need to get married right now. Being single for a long time isn't that bad when you consider the downsides of marriage.
 

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It's a social expectation.

Last night I fvcked an HB 7.5 and she kept asking me if I was married. Now I'm as single as can be and look younger than my age but she just expected me to be married. If you hit 30 you think oh crap gotta tie the knot now and make bad decisions.


Luckily I don't feel the need to get married right now. Being single for a long time isn't that bad when you consider the downsides of marriage.
I'm also talking about just relationships in general. I have to laugh at these short term (2 to 3 year) relationships that fizzle quickly during the course of my long dry spell without women.
 

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I have to say, one of the things I'm thankful for, although I've been without a girlfriend for a while...I kind of have to chuckle...but not in a sadistic fashion...at my friends' yo-yoing relationship statuses on Facebook.

Just saw a dude, got married I think a couple of years ago...VERY new marriage, and all of a sudden...he's "separated" likely divorce is pending.

Me and another single male friend got to talking about other people and I recall this one guy who was dating, and they even moved in together this real hot 40-something Brazilian woman. Found out recently broke up, and she's on to a new guy already.

You tend to find out these things in your social circles and you can sympathize, but really....when hearing this you don't feel so bad about being single.

I mean think about it....for instance, let's say you've been unattached for 5 to 6 years, and your friends hook up, date each other for 2 years, then BOOM, they are broken up.

It's amazing the frequency of how many of my friends go in and out of very short term relationships or even marriages. The marriages REALLY make me wonder.

It's like "Great I haven't had a g/f in 6 years, but...I could be THOSE guys who probably had gone through the gauntlet of turmoil and heart ache"
Agreed 100%

A friend of mine told me: '' It's when you are in a LTR that you wish you were single.''

I remember alot of people in LTR wishing to be ''free''

I've been single for 2 years... don't regret it at all... sure some LTR stuff I miss but damn I am free.

Also, I believe alot of people in our generations or time... don't have the will to ''committ'' or to ''adapt'' ... they break apart at the first symptoms of fight, lost of ''lust'', and where they have to ''adapt/compromise''

LTR are 2 people, so you always have to consider the other... alot of people fail at that now.

What is important is that you are happy in your situation
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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