The girl I'm exclusive with now is pretty cool, LTR material, I'm not sure what to get her for Christmas. I think "dominating the frame" extends even to gift giving, so I want to give her something she'll like but I don't want to go too sentimental since we've only been seeing each other for 5 months. I also think I'd like to give her a few smaller presents then one large present. Total budget: $100. Your thoughts?
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Christmas Presents?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
penkitten
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a mixed tape??!! @ desdinova
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
I'd be interested in this too. My chick is pretty well off and has heaps of jewellery and stuff.
I don't suppose it would suffice to take her to church? Naaah! Not for a holy day!
See, that's why I hate Xmas. It long ago ceased to be a holy day. Now it's just an excuse for greedy rich merchants to manipulate women and children into shaming men into burning money and ruining their household finances.
EDIT: and the state is right there waiting for you to get into an argument, go out and get drunk, so their DUI checkpoints can jail you and impound your car.
Every criticism we make of bridezilla weddings can be repeated about Xmas.
What can you do with only $100? You can't even take her to Vegas.
I have to disagree about making a substitute art project for an Xmas present. Because that's what it comes across as: a weak substitute.
See, that's why I hate Xmas. It long ago ceased to be a holy day. Now it's just an excuse for greedy rich merchants to manipulate women and children into shaming men into burning money and ruining their household finances.
EDIT: and the state is right there waiting for you to get into an argument, go out and get drunk, so their DUI checkpoints can jail you and impound your car.
Every criticism we make of bridezilla weddings can be repeated about Xmas.
What can you do with only $100? You can't even take her to Vegas.
I have to disagree about making a substitute art project for an Xmas present. Because that's what it comes across as: a weak substitute.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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SecondHalf
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Sometimes this can be a challenge with a woman that has everything she wants.
I've bought a narcissist a decorative mirror before and she loved it.
I've bought another a tennis racket so we could play in the spring.
Small music system for one so her home office giving her quality sound all day.
Other ideas ..
2 theater tickets where you get half back
A book on paradise islands to visit (cheap, hint at things you want to do ...) - this one is a must even as a side order.
Ebook readers / tablets - some are quite cheap.
A picture album with all the photos you've taken together or while together with comments on the side (this cost me 20 bucks with printed photos and was loved).
It depends on the woman, some just have everything, but some of the items in "Other ideas" are easy.
SH
I've bought a narcissist a decorative mirror before and she loved it.
I've bought another a tennis racket so we could play in the spring.
Small music system for one so her home office giving her quality sound all day.
Other ideas ..
2 theater tickets where you get half back
A book on paradise islands to visit (cheap, hint at things you want to do ...) - this one is a must even as a side order.
Ebook readers / tablets - some are quite cheap.
A picture album with all the photos you've taken together or while together with comments on the side (this cost me 20 bucks with printed photos and was loved).
It depends on the woman, some just have everything, but some of the items in "Other ideas" are easy.
SH
rascal99v
Senior Don Juan
Only 5 months? $100 is way too much. might turn her off since you are not even in an LTR. go with the smaller gifts. buy her something she likes. like a couple of dvds or some cd's or a couple of books. if you go expensive and she goes cheap you look like a fool. i wouldnt go over $40 -50 if that. dont buy anything fancy it will turn her off if her feelings are not the same as yours.
Before I reply, let me ask you a serious question: why do you want to give her a gift?
I'm not trying to be a douche or a smartypants. It's an honest-to-goodness question: What is the reasoning behind the gift?
Edit: Wait... you're not in an LTR with this girl!? Forget it. She's not A Woman in your Life™.
Edit2: Okay, nevermind. I misunderstood. You are in an exclusive relationship with this girl. How many of those 5 months have been exclusive? Also then, the original question still stands: what is the reasoning behind the gift?
I'm not trying to be a douche or a smartypants. It's an honest-to-goodness question: What is the reasoning behind the gift?
Edit: Wait... you're not in an LTR with this girl!? Forget it. She's not A Woman in your Life™.
Edit2: Okay, nevermind. I misunderstood. You are in an exclusive relationship with this girl. How many of those 5 months have been exclusive? Also then, the original question still stands: what is the reasoning behind the gift?
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