The girl I'm exclusive with now is pretty cool, LTR material, I'm not sure what to get her for Christmas. I think "dominating the frame" extends even to gift giving, so I want to give her something she'll like but I don't want to go too sentimental since we've only been seeing each other for 5 months. I also think I'd like to give her a few smaller presents then one large present. Total budget: $100. Your thoughts?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Christmas Presents?
- Thread starter Von_S
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
a mixed tape??!! @ desdinova
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
I'd be interested in this too. My chick is pretty well off and has heaps of jewellery and stuff.
I don't suppose it would suffice to take her to church? Naaah! Not for a holy day!
See, that's why I hate Xmas. It long ago ceased to be a holy day. Now it's just an excuse for greedy rich merchants to manipulate women and children into shaming men into burning money and ruining their household finances.
EDIT: and the state is right there waiting for you to get into an argument, go out and get drunk, so their DUI checkpoints can jail you and impound your car.
Every criticism we make of bridezilla weddings can be repeated about Xmas.
What can you do with only $100? You can't even take her to Vegas.
I have to disagree about making a substitute art project for an Xmas present. Because that's what it comes across as: a weak substitute.
See, that's why I hate Xmas. It long ago ceased to be a holy day. Now it's just an excuse for greedy rich merchants to manipulate women and children into shaming men into burning money and ruining their household finances.
EDIT: and the state is right there waiting for you to get into an argument, go out and get drunk, so their DUI checkpoints can jail you and impound your car.
Every criticism we make of bridezilla weddings can be repeated about Xmas.
What can you do with only $100? You can't even take her to Vegas.
I have to disagree about making a substitute art project for an Xmas present. Because that's what it comes across as: a weak substitute.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
Sometimes this can be a challenge with a woman that has everything she wants.
I've bought a narcissist a decorative mirror before and she loved it.
I've bought another a tennis racket so we could play in the spring.
Small music system for one so her home office giving her quality sound all day.
Other ideas ..
2 theater tickets where you get half back
A book on paradise islands to visit (cheap, hint at things you want to do ...) - this one is a must even as a side order.
Ebook readers / tablets - some are quite cheap.
A picture album with all the photos you've taken together or while together with comments on the side (this cost me 20 bucks with printed photos and was loved).
It depends on the woman, some just have everything, but some of the items in "Other ideas" are easy.
SH
I've bought a narcissist a decorative mirror before and she loved it.
I've bought another a tennis racket so we could play in the spring.
Small music system for one so her home office giving her quality sound all day.
Other ideas ..
2 theater tickets where you get half back
A book on paradise islands to visit (cheap, hint at things you want to do ...) - this one is a must even as a side order.
Ebook readers / tablets - some are quite cheap.
A picture album with all the photos you've taken together or while together with comments on the side (this cost me 20 bucks with printed photos and was loved).
It depends on the woman, some just have everything, but some of the items in "Other ideas" are easy.
SH
rascal99v
Senior Don Juan
Only 5 months? $100 is way too much. might turn her off since you are not even in an LTR. go with the smaller gifts. buy her something she likes. like a couple of dvds or some cd's or a couple of books. if you go expensive and she goes cheap you look like a fool. i wouldnt go over $40 -50 if that. dont buy anything fancy it will turn her off if her feelings are not the same as yours.
Before I reply, let me ask you a serious question: why do you want to give her a gift?
I'm not trying to be a douche or a smartypants. It's an honest-to-goodness question: What is the reasoning behind the gift?
Edit: Wait... you're not in an LTR with this girl!? Forget it. She's not A Woman in your Life™.
Edit2: Okay, nevermind. I misunderstood. You are in an exclusive relationship with this girl. How many of those 5 months have been exclusive? Also then, the original question still stands: what is the reasoning behind the gift?
I'm not trying to be a douche or a smartypants. It's an honest-to-goodness question: What is the reasoning behind the gift?
Edit: Wait... you're not in an LTR with this girl!? Forget it. She's not A Woman in your Life™.
Edit2: Okay, nevermind. I misunderstood. You are in an exclusive relationship with this girl. How many of those 5 months have been exclusive? Also then, the original question still stands: what is the reasoning behind the gift?
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