"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Christmas gift indecision

SecondHalf

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So, I'm wrapping up the Christmas shopping and am not sure how much to spend on a woman I've been seeing exclusively for almost 5 months.

Just to put the relationship in context, it's very good, I'm pleased with just about everything regarding this woman and the relationship may very well last a long time.

That said, I've purchased the toys that we'll use together (sports & sound equipment ...), but I think it may be time for something a bit girly.

I had earrings in mind.
The problem is, I can't buy her cosmetics as she is quite affluent and works with very wealthy clients.

It's not a personal money issue but I fear there are fine lines between cheap, generous and down right chumpy when it comes to spending money on a relationship this young.

What would you spend?

Any opinions would be appreciated.

Thanks,

SH
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PokerStar

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its not what you spend. its what you spend on. listen to your woman, ask her what she got over the last few years and by listening to what she says, she will indicate or at least go over the gifts that she wanted.
 

blueeyedgent

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Pandora bracelets are really "in" this Christmas. You can get something nice for under $200 and can customize it with charms that may have "meaning" for her.

Or you can spend up to $3000. Very versatile gift if she's into it.
 

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3 gifts!

1, something stupid and childish, i.e. favourites sweets candy from when she was a kid

2, something girly, bath oil, something she will pamper herself with (ask other women on this one)

3 the main event....opera tickets, theatre or something that really means hardcore to her

combo of these 3 is a win imo!
 

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i thought everyone knew by now that it should be a bag of skittles and double so if she doesn't even like skittles
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desdinova

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I've been with mine for three months and I'm spending around fifty bucks on her. For girly stuff, I got her a fluffy pillow and some candles. I'm also making her a home video of me being funny and throwing in some old clips of myself in there. If there's one thing I encourage my women to do, it's obsess over me when I'm not around. A home video is perfect for that. :D
 

Viagra4Soul

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blueeyedgent said:
Pandora bracelets are really "in" this Christmas.....
Really? They are 'out' here now - they were big last Xmas (2010) in Australia.

Seems the local girls have moved on.
 

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Dear Second Half,
I am with Des.....No more than $100!
 

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You're asking these cheapskates around here what to spend?
I'm surprised you weren't told to "accidentally" forget to get her a gift, and then if she calls you on it, make an evasive, ****y and funny remark.

Seriously, the earrings sound like a good idea. Not sure what a nice pair goes for these days though. Go find a pair you think she'd like and see what they cost. That should give you some idea. Maybe tell the salesperson in the jewelry store how long you've been seeing her, so you don't want to spend more than would be appropriate.
On the other hand, if she's well off as you say, she may have expensive tastes.
 

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Thanks everyone.

I opted against throwing cash at the girlie gift and instead did something a bit creative (photo album with all the pictures of us thus far). I think my testicles actually shrunk while doing it, but at least I didn't have the cash risk (chump/spoil the girl/uncomfortable girl - unequal gift...).

I appreciate the feed back,

SH
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Viagra4Soul said:
Really? They are 'out' here now - they were big last Xmas (2010) in Australia.

Seems the local girls have moved on.
The only "Sheila" I was ever with was a FAST girl in every respect LOL
 
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