"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Christmas gift indecision

SecondHalf

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So, I'm wrapping up the Christmas shopping and am not sure how much to spend on a woman I've been seeing exclusively for almost 5 months.

Just to put the relationship in context, it's very good, I'm pleased with just about everything regarding this woman and the relationship may very well last a long time.

That said, I've purchased the toys that we'll use together (sports & sound equipment ...), but I think it may be time for something a bit girly.

I had earrings in mind.
The problem is, I can't buy her cosmetics as she is quite affluent and works with very wealthy clients.

It's not a personal money issue but I fear there are fine lines between cheap, generous and down right chumpy when it comes to spending money on a relationship this young.

What would you spend?

Any opinions would be appreciated.

Thanks,

SH
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PokerStar

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its not what you spend. its what you spend on. listen to your woman, ask her what she got over the last few years and by listening to what she says, she will indicate or at least go over the gifts that she wanted.
 

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Pandora bracelets are really "in" this Christmas. You can get something nice for under $200 and can customize it with charms that may have "meaning" for her.

Or you can spend up to $3000. Very versatile gift if she's into it.
 

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3 gifts!

1, something stupid and childish, i.e. favourites sweets candy from when she was a kid

2, something girly, bath oil, something she will pamper herself with (ask other women on this one)

3 the main event....opera tickets, theatre or something that really means hardcore to her

combo of these 3 is a win imo!
 

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i thought everyone knew by now that it should be a bag of skittles and double so if she doesn't even like skittles
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Desdinova

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I've been with mine for three months and I'm spending around fifty bucks on her. For girly stuff, I got her a fluffy pillow and some candles. I'm also making her a home video of me being funny and throwing in some old clips of myself in there. If there's one thing I encourage my women to do, it's obsess over me when I'm not around. A home video is perfect for that. :D
 

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blueeyedgent said:
Pandora bracelets are really "in" this Christmas.....
Really? They are 'out' here now - they were big last Xmas (2010) in Australia.

Seems the local girls have moved on.
 

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Dear Second Half,
I am with Des.....No more than $100!
 

zekko

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You're asking these cheapskates around here what to spend?
I'm surprised you weren't told to "accidentally" forget to get her a gift, and then if she calls you on it, make an evasive, ****y and funny remark.

Seriously, the earrings sound like a good idea. Not sure what a nice pair goes for these days though. Go find a pair you think she'd like and see what they cost. That should give you some idea. Maybe tell the salesperson in the jewelry store how long you've been seeing her, so you don't want to spend more than would be appropriate.
On the other hand, if she's well off as you say, she may have expensive tastes.
 

SecondHalf

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Thanks everyone.

I opted against throwing cash at the girlie gift and instead did something a bit creative (photo album with all the pictures of us thus far). I think my testicles actually shrunk while doing it, but at least I didn't have the cash risk (chump/spoil the girl/uncomfortable girl - unequal gift...).

I appreciate the feed back,

SH
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Viagra4Soul said:
Really? They are 'out' here now - they were big last Xmas (2010) in Australia.

Seems the local girls have moved on.
The only "Sheila" I was ever with was a FAST girl in every respect LOL
 
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