skinnydart
Master Don Juan
It'll be worth it guys, keep it up!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
crotchrocket
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It will be worth it, she (whoever she is for you) will be worth it, there in lies the other problem; they know they are worth it and therefore will make you work that much harder to get them.
Like you say Deadly_Assassin, most of them see any confident, funny guy that is good with the ladies as a guy who has only one thing on his mind, and it's tough to prove that with you it isn't true.
I asked a girl from my Church one time out for coffee, she told me point blank, "I don't want to give you any false expectations, particularly with someone from my own church!" so yah!
Like you say Deadly_Assassin, most of them see any confident, funny guy that is good with the ladies as a guy who has only one thing on his mind, and it's tough to prove that with you it isn't true.
I asked a girl from my Church one time out for coffee, she told me point blank, "I don't want to give you any false expectations, particularly with someone from my own church!" so yah!
BlackDragon
Don Juan
Yeah, its takes some time with christian girls. I failed to get one girl's number at the beginning of the semseter, but I haven't given up. I decieded to take it slow and became her friend. I tease and flirt with her all the time, and she seem to show more intrest everyday. She invited me to her chruch, and im thinking about going someday.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
True, but they know that they are worth getting another Christian guy(most of them anyway), so if you fit in that catagory, it's balances it'self out.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Haha, you answered your own question. I'd think your best bet would be to be upfront about your sexual morals. The ones who are saving sex, will respect you a lot for it.
I had no idea so many fellow DJs here had the same morals as me. Good to see all you guys here!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Deadly_Assassin
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cheers, I just told my christian mate today that I am a virgin, he didnt believe and said it just couldnt be possible. He honestly didnt believe me for ages and probably it still hasnt sunk in.
Later on I was chatting to my other christian mate and my interest and her mate was there. He goes to the main uni and so does the interest as well. But then he starts telling me in front of my interest on how all these girls from uni know me and stuff and think I am kinda hot. Straight away my interest turns away and doesnt seem to be interested in our conversation.
another thing I am working on at the moment is trying not to get jealous. Its been a long day for me. I always pray and try leaving it upto God whenever I see my interest. I always say that I am going to trust in you Lord cos I know you gonna help me out. Everytime I do this I get tested. Either some other guy will go sit beside my interest, even though they are just friends I get a bit worried (shouldnt for a christian and a DJ), or she will start talking to someone else. But one thing I have realised that if I pass this test by not getting phased by it and saying I am trusting in you Lord and actually letting it go for a few moments the interest will always come and talk to me
what about you guys any experiences to share? Has anyone got the I am not ready for a relationship line? how did things go from then on?
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
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