BlackDragon
Don Juan
Do most of the rules apply to christian dating? I was taught you were sposed to start off as friends. Once you start dating, no kino or kissing. This sucks!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Why? There's nothing saying Christians can't kiss.Once you start dating, no kino or kissing. This sucks!
If you want to make this into another "C0ckblocked by Jesus" thread, then go ahead.Originally posted by BlackDragon
Do most of the rules apply to christian dating? I was taught you were sposed to start off as friends. Once you start dating, no kino or kissing. This sucks!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I would say yes. You must still have that ****y funny attitude, play hard to get with the girl, not call her everyday, action dates not act desperate etc.Do most of the rules apply to christian dating
Some people might disagree with what I have to say about this one. I think theres nothing wrong with being friends first. But you must always keep your sexuality open, act like a man, a lot of kino, and play hard to get (challenge). The chicks just wanna be friends first because they wanna make sure the person they are interested in is the right person for them. This may be because they have been hurt in their past relationship or that they are after serious long term commitment (marraige) or both. This always seems to be true for the chicks that are really into their faith.I was taught you were sposed to start off as friends
In christian relationships the couple are not meant to have sex till they get married. Therefore most couples set boundaries like no kissing below the neck, and no holding hands in public places especially church etc. But sometimes even with these boundaries in place the physical desire in a person can take over them and tempt them into sin. Thats why most pastors will say no to kissing and holding hands especially if you have poor self control.Once you start dating, no kino or kissing. This sucks!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Good point, I'm right with you. It's good to know there are some of these on the board.Rock on bro , Im a Christian, have morals and values and I will not have sex before im married
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.