skinnydart
Master Don Juan
It'll be worth it guys, keep it up!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Christian dating
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
crotchrocket
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It will be worth it, she (whoever she is for you) will be worth it, there in lies the other problem; they know they are worth it and therefore will make you work that much harder to get them.
Like you say Deadly_Assassin, most of them see any confident, funny guy that is good with the ladies as a guy who has only one thing on his mind, and it's tough to prove that with you it isn't true.
I asked a girl from my Church one time out for coffee, she told me point blank, "I don't want to give you any false expectations, particularly with someone from my own church!" so yah!
Like you say Deadly_Assassin, most of them see any confident, funny guy that is good with the ladies as a guy who has only one thing on his mind, and it's tough to prove that with you it isn't true.
I asked a girl from my Church one time out for coffee, she told me point blank, "I don't want to give you any false expectations, particularly with someone from my own church!" so yah!
BlackDragon
Don Juan
Yeah, its takes some time with christian girls. I failed to get one girl's number at the beginning of the semseter, but I haven't given up. I decieded to take it slow and became her friend. I tease and flirt with her all the time, and she seem to show more intrest everyday. She invited me to her chruch, and im thinking about going someday.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
True, but they know that they are worth getting another Christian guy(most of them anyway), so if you fit in that catagory, it's balances it'self out.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Haha, you answered your own question. I'd think your best bet would be to be upfront about your sexual morals. The ones who are saving sex, will respect you a lot for it.
I had no idea so many fellow DJs here had the same morals as me. Good to see all you guys here!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Deadly_Assassin
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cheers, I just told my christian mate today that I am a virgin, he didnt believe and said it just couldnt be possible. He honestly didnt believe me for ages and probably it still hasnt sunk in.
Later on I was chatting to my other christian mate and my interest and her mate was there. He goes to the main uni and so does the interest as well. But then he starts telling me in front of my interest on how all these girls from uni know me and stuff and think I am kinda hot. Straight away my interest turns away and doesnt seem to be interested in our conversation.
another thing I am working on at the moment is trying not to get jealous. Its been a long day for me. I always pray and try leaving it upto God whenever I see my interest. I always say that I am going to trust in you Lord cos I know you gonna help me out. Everytime I do this I get tested. Either some other guy will go sit beside my interest, even though they are just friends I get a bit worried (shouldnt for a christian and a DJ), or she will start talking to someone else. But one thing I have realised that if I pass this test by not getting phased by it and saying I am trusting in you Lord and actually letting it go for a few moments the interest will always come and talk to me
what about you guys any experiences to share? Has anyone got the I am not ready for a relationship line? how did things go from then on?
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
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