"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Chivalry moves/techniques when going out with a girl?

Happy_Camper

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Hi everyone, i was wondering what kind of chivalry moves should i do when going out with a girl. I havent dated much all these years, throughout highschool i didnt get one single gf and basically im a newb to all this especially handling women.

Besides the hold/open doors, carry something heavy are common ones, what are the more subtle ones that exist such as walking on the outside of the sidewalk (next to the road) when walking with her.

Thanks a lot guys, tmrw is my birthday and im hoping for a new change this year starting off with these things. =)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I wouldn't go too far out of my way to do things for women you don't know. I've seen guys hold open doors for 30 seconds waiting for a girl. Of course, she feels awkward and starts walking briskly so she doesn't look rude.

Don't get me wrong, I like to be overly nice at times. But usually when I already have rapport with a girl. Remember, theres a big difference in between being a nice guy and a good guy.
 

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Kev07 said:
let her go up stairs first, go down stairs first, so if she happens to fall you can catch her.

go in elevators first, and out elevators first.

read that in a gentleman's handbook somewhere
those are the ones im talking about, subtle stuff like that. Anymore? Where did u find that handbook? thanks!
 

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When walking on the side of the road with her.. walk on the side nearer to the road.. Women have noticed that and have told me I'm such a gentleman cuz they noticed lol
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ChapStick said:
When walking on the side of the road with her.. walk on the side nearer to the road.. Women have noticed that and have told me I'm such a gentleman cuz they noticed lol
yeah heard that one before too, girls notice the slightest things lol
 

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open the car door for her and then say "you know what? let me buckle your seatbelt too ;)" lol used that a few times
 

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(JJ) said:
open the car door for her and then say "you know what? let me buckle your seatbelt too ;)" lol used that a few times
woah u kidding lol
 

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If you're at a dinner table at a restaurant before her, stand up when she gets there to greet her. Maybe pull out her chair. But yeah as one poster said, HUGE difference b/t being a nice guy(doormat) and a good guy(does the right thing but respects himself, will not be walked on)
 

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Some chick was going up the stairs today and a dude stepped aside so she could go ahead. She said "chivalry isn't dead" and he said "no it just got beat up", but he kept going on and on about it. He was uncomfortable with her favorable response.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Inside Man said:
If you're at a dinner table at a restaurant before her, stand up when she gets there to greet her. Maybe pull out her chair. But yeah as one poster said, HUGE difference b/t being a nice guy(doormat) and a good guy(does the right thing but respects himself, will not be walked on)
ooh thats some good stuff! these are the ones that im talking about! Not being a kiss-ass but gentlemen at the same time!
 
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