"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Chivalry moves/techniques when going out with a girl?

Happy_Camper

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Hi everyone, i was wondering what kind of chivalry moves should i do when going out with a girl. I havent dated much all these years, throughout highschool i didnt get one single gf and basically im a newb to all this especially handling women.

Besides the hold/open doors, carry something heavy are common ones, what are the more subtle ones that exist such as walking on the outside of the sidewalk (next to the road) when walking with her.

Thanks a lot guys, tmrw is my birthday and im hoping for a new change this year starting off with these things. =)
 

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I wouldn't go too far out of my way to do things for women you don't know. I've seen guys hold open doors for 30 seconds waiting for a girl. Of course, she feels awkward and starts walking briskly so she doesn't look rude.

Don't get me wrong, I like to be overly nice at times. But usually when I already have rapport with a girl. Remember, theres a big difference in between being a nice guy and a good guy.
 

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Kev07 said:
let her go up stairs first, go down stairs first, so if she happens to fall you can catch her.

go in elevators first, and out elevators first.

read that in a gentleman's handbook somewhere
those are the ones im talking about, subtle stuff like that. Anymore? Where did u find that handbook? thanks!
 

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When walking on the side of the road with her.. walk on the side nearer to the road.. Women have noticed that and have told me I'm such a gentleman cuz they noticed lol
 

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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ChapStick said:
When walking on the side of the road with her.. walk on the side nearer to the road.. Women have noticed that and have told me I'm such a gentleman cuz they noticed lol
yeah heard that one before too, girls notice the slightest things lol
 

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open the car door for her and then say "you know what? let me buckle your seatbelt too ;)" lol used that a few times
 

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(JJ) said:
open the car door for her and then say "you know what? let me buckle your seatbelt too ;)" lol used that a few times
woah u kidding lol
 

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If you're at a dinner table at a restaurant before her, stand up when she gets there to greet her. Maybe pull out her chair. But yeah as one poster said, HUGE difference b/t being a nice guy(doormat) and a good guy(does the right thing but respects himself, will not be walked on)
 

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Some chick was going up the stairs today and a dude stepped aside so she could go ahead. She said "chivalry isn't dead" and he said "no it just got beat up", but he kept going on and on about it. He was uncomfortable with her favorable response.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Inside Man said:
If you're at a dinner table at a restaurant before her, stand up when she gets there to greet her. Maybe pull out her chair. But yeah as one poster said, HUGE difference b/t being a nice guy(doormat) and a good guy(does the right thing but respects himself, will not be walked on)
ooh thats some good stuff! these are the ones that im talking about! Not being a kiss-ass but gentlemen at the same time!
 
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