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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chivalry moves/techniques when going out with a girl?

Happy_Camper

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Hi everyone, i was wondering what kind of chivalry moves should i do when going out with a girl. I havent dated much all these years, throughout highschool i didnt get one single gf and basically im a newb to all this especially handling women.

Besides the hold/open doors, carry something heavy are common ones, what are the more subtle ones that exist such as walking on the outside of the sidewalk (next to the road) when walking with her.

Thanks a lot guys, tmrw is my birthday and im hoping for a new change this year starting off with these things. =)
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I wouldn't go too far out of my way to do things for women you don't know. I've seen guys hold open doors for 30 seconds waiting for a girl. Of course, she feels awkward and starts walking briskly so she doesn't look rude.

Don't get me wrong, I like to be overly nice at times. But usually when I already have rapport with a girl. Remember, theres a big difference in between being a nice guy and a good guy.
 

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Kev07 said:
let her go up stairs first, go down stairs first, so if she happens to fall you can catch her.

go in elevators first, and out elevators first.

read that in a gentleman's handbook somewhere
those are the ones im talking about, subtle stuff like that. Anymore? Where did u find that handbook? thanks!
 

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When walking on the side of the road with her.. walk on the side nearer to the road.. Women have noticed that and have told me I'm such a gentleman cuz they noticed lol
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ChapStick said:
When walking on the side of the road with her.. walk on the side nearer to the road.. Women have noticed that and have told me I'm such a gentleman cuz they noticed lol
yeah heard that one before too, girls notice the slightest things lol
 

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open the car door for her and then say "you know what? let me buckle your seatbelt too ;)" lol used that a few times
 

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(JJ) said:
open the car door for her and then say "you know what? let me buckle your seatbelt too ;)" lol used that a few times
woah u kidding lol
 

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If you're at a dinner table at a restaurant before her, stand up when she gets there to greet her. Maybe pull out her chair. But yeah as one poster said, HUGE difference b/t being a nice guy(doormat) and a good guy(does the right thing but respects himself, will not be walked on)
 

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Some chick was going up the stairs today and a dude stepped aside so she could go ahead. She said "chivalry isn't dead" and he said "no it just got beat up", but he kept going on and on about it. He was uncomfortable with her favorable response.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Inside Man said:
If you're at a dinner table at a restaurant before her, stand up when she gets there to greet her. Maybe pull out her chair. But yeah as one poster said, HUGE difference b/t being a nice guy(doormat) and a good guy(does the right thing but respects himself, will not be walked on)
ooh thats some good stuff! these are the ones that im talking about! Not being a kiss-ass but gentlemen at the same time!
 
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