MatureDJ
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Chick sends 159K text messages to man she had a first date with
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
flowtheory
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How is that even possible
MatureDJ
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Maybe she's a secretary and can type 400 words a minute?
Serenity
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The messages sent per hour is very high.
I'm rounding up the timeframe to 10 whole months, which is ~305 days.
159000 / 305 = 521 messages per day.
If we assume 8 hours of sleep every day.
521 / 16 = 32 messages per hour.
So if the information is correct in that article, she sent a message on average when not sleeping every 2 minutes for 10 months. I'm guessing a lot of the messages are very short ones that takes 2 seconds to write and send, which are spammed multiple of within a minute. But still though, there can't have been a second she hasn't been thinking of the guy.
Definitely mentally ill, that's some extremely obsessive behavior.
backseatjuan
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You can not send 500 messages per day. She used an 'SMS bomber' software. There are many different kinds of them.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Serenity
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You think a woman like that is clever enough to use such software? It is possible to send a high volume of texts like that without special software, if you're obsessed and crazy enough which I have little doubt she was. Like I said, she probably sent the same message or short words over and over in bursts counting several in a minute. This would offset the times she had a break, the average is just an average, it doesn't present the actual pattern. It would be hard to send a message consistently every 2 minutes.You can not send 500 messages per day. She used an 'SMS bomber' software. There are many different kinds of them.
sazc
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I once had a POFer send me over 300+ messages pre first date. At one point he was texting non stop during a work day. He had a really high opinion of himself. The tenacity of it all. Even dangled comicon tickets, for 4 weeks in the future, in front of my face, thinking I would maintain connection because of them. He killed any attraction early on but I had to meet him to see wtf he was really all about in person. Nice but nothing to speak of.
Crazies always find a way, ask murk
Crazies always find a way, ask murk
sazc
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Ppl like this tend to not sleep alot. 4 hours is probably her norm. But, yea, it can be done. I wonder if she was in the mental Ward any of that time - what else would she have to do there?
Why didn't he block her?
Serenity
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Yeah, I thought about that. Changing it won't make a large difference though.
521 / 20 = 26 per hour
Which is what? One every 2 and a half minutes on average?
He might not have known he can do that or he did but it didn't help because she kept changing her number. Blocking doesn't always stop the crazies.