MatureDJ
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Chick sends 159K text messages to man she had a first date with
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
flowtheory
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How is that even possible
MatureDJ
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Maybe she's a secretary and can type 400 words a minute?
Serenity
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The messages sent per hour is very high.
I'm rounding up the timeframe to 10 whole months, which is ~305 days.
159000 / 305 = 521 messages per day.
If we assume 8 hours of sleep every day.
521 / 16 = 32 messages per hour.
So if the information is correct in that article, she sent a message on average when not sleeping every 2 minutes for 10 months. I'm guessing a lot of the messages are very short ones that takes 2 seconds to write and send, which are spammed multiple of within a minute. But still though, there can't have been a second she hasn't been thinking of the guy.
Definitely mentally ill, that's some extremely obsessive behavior.
backseatjuan
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You can not send 500 messages per day. She used an 'SMS bomber' software. There are many different kinds of them.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Serenity
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You think a woman like that is clever enough to use such software? It is possible to send a high volume of texts like that without special software, if you're obsessed and crazy enough which I have little doubt she was. Like I said, she probably sent the same message or short words over and over in bursts counting several in a minute. This would offset the times she had a break, the average is just an average, it doesn't present the actual pattern. It would be hard to send a message consistently every 2 minutes.You can not send 500 messages per day. She used an 'SMS bomber' software. There are many different kinds of them.
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I once had a POFer send me over 300+ messages pre first date. At one point he was texting non stop during a work day. He had a really high opinion of himself. The tenacity of it all. Even dangled comicon tickets, for 4 weeks in the future, in front of my face, thinking I would maintain connection because of them. He killed any attraction early on but I had to meet him to see wtf he was really all about in person. Nice but nothing to speak of.
Crazies always find a way, ask murk
Crazies always find a way, ask murk
sazc
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Ppl like this tend to not sleep alot. 4 hours is probably her norm. But, yea, it can be done. I wonder if she was in the mental Ward any of that time - what else would she have to do there?
Why didn't he block her?
Serenity
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Yeah, I thought about that. Changing it won't make a large difference though.
521 / 20 = 26 per hour
Which is what? One every 2 and a half minutes on average?
He might not have known he can do that or he did but it didn't help because she kept changing her number. Blocking doesn't always stop the crazies.