timmylivingalie
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- May 9, 2011
- Messages
- 226
- Reaction score
- 1
What to do when a chick wants to listen to her music instead of yours. Use to encounter this problem in vehicles and at parties.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Chick Music?
- Thread starter timmylivingalie
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Equilibrium
Don Juan
Swat her hand away from the radio and tell her no. Trust me man. I blew it with some girl over the summer and I attributed it to this. Now, that sounds weird, but, my friends in the car thought the same thing. I let her put on her girly dance dance stuff. Now I don't let a woman touch the thing. Maybe rarely, but definitely not early on. You wouldn't go putting on your music in her car, and she's doing it as a subtle little **** test to see how pliable you are. My first instinct is to not care, but I know better.
I try to avoid it by finding chicks with similar musical tastes to my own, not all of them are into all that pop garbage.
Anyhow, the rule is that you don't touch the driver's radio: PERIOD. Doesn't matter if it's a chick or a dude riding in my car, you keep your hands off of the stereo unless you want to start walking instead.
Anyhow, the rule is that you don't touch the driver's radio: PERIOD. Doesn't matter if it's a chick or a dude riding in my car, you keep your hands off of the stereo unless you want to start walking instead.
He (or she) who drives...everybody knows that. Since I rarely am not driving when with a woman it's usually me.
Usually at a party people want to listen to girly dance music or hip hop. Not my choice but if it's what the people want it is good manners to go with what your guests want.
Usually at a party people want to listen to girly dance music or hip hop. Not my choice but if it's what the people want it is good manners to go with what your guests want.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Love's Orphan
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 31, 2012
- Messages
- 123
- Reaction score
- 0
My car, my music. Her car, her music.
HalfAddict
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 23, 2005
- Messages
- 773
- Reaction score
- 29
- Age
- 43
So basically find a chick who is into ls school soul and get it on with her, amitrie?
Too bad when I say Al Green they say wat?
Lame.
Too bad when I say Al Green they say wat?
Lame.
timmylivingalie
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- May 9, 2011
- Messages
- 226
- Reaction score
- 1
Back in my AFC days I had to suffer through everthing from aqua to destinys child. lolAaron B said: