"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Chick is mad that people found out we hooked up?

foomee

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Wtf? Is she that embarrassed of me? A few minutes after sex she tells me that she thinks that was a bad idea and she doesn't want anyone to find out. So it's our little secret or something. This is mainly due to all of the drama it would cause because she's one of my ex's good friends, etc. etc.
But still... she texts me tonight asking if I told anyone. I said no. And she said some people told her that I said we did, which is completely bull. How should I go about dealing with this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NickBe

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If she is one of your ex's friends then maybe it isn't you its the fact that she does not want her friend to find out. Just keep your mouth shut unless it servers some advantage you telling people.
 

Jariel

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Do what you want, man. Don't let some bossy and stuck up drama queen tell you what to do or who you can talk to.

If she didn't want anyone finding out, she should have kept her clothes on. Don't get involved with her rules and drama. Just tell her "These things happen" or "Get over it".
 

Max Power

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foomee said:
Wtf? Is she that embarrassed of me? A few minutes after sex she tells me that she thinks that was a bad idea and she doesn't want anyone to find out. So it's our little secret or something. This is mainly due to all of the drama it would cause because she's one of my ex's good friends, etc. etc.
But still... she texts me tonight asking if I told anyone. I said no. And she said some people told her that I said we did, which is completely bull. How should I go about dealing with this?
It's her anti-slut defence in operation. It's normal. She doesn't want her circle to think she's a slut by ****ing a her friend's ex. It's like Fight Club. What's the first rule of Fight Club?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Snow Plowman

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Max Power said:
It's her anti-slut defence in operation. It's normal. She doesn't want her circle to think she's a slut by ****ing a her friend's ex. It's like Fight Club. What's the first rule of Fight Club?
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
It could be true...

...but one question

How was the sex? Did you hold your side of the pleasure giving? To really find out basically try to get a meet up again and escalate it to sex. If this doesn't work out then...yep it was your sex game.
 

bachelor

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Don't sweat it man. If she wants to be immature let her be... Shes obviously has some issues where she's scared of everyone else finding out so let her be... Move on to some other girls lol...
 
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