"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Chick is mad that people found out we hooked up?

foomee

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Wtf? Is she that embarrassed of me? A few minutes after sex she tells me that she thinks that was a bad idea and she doesn't want anyone to find out. So it's our little secret or something. This is mainly due to all of the drama it would cause because she's one of my ex's good friends, etc. etc.
But still... she texts me tonight asking if I told anyone. I said no. And she said some people told her that I said we did, which is completely bull. How should I go about dealing with this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NickBe

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If she is one of your ex's friends then maybe it isn't you its the fact that she does not want her friend to find out. Just keep your mouth shut unless it servers some advantage you telling people.
 

Jariel

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Do what you want, man. Don't let some bossy and stuck up drama queen tell you what to do or who you can talk to.

If she didn't want anyone finding out, she should have kept her clothes on. Don't get involved with her rules and drama. Just tell her "These things happen" or "Get over it".
 

Max Power

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foomee said:
Wtf? Is she that embarrassed of me? A few minutes after sex she tells me that she thinks that was a bad idea and she doesn't want anyone to find out. So it's our little secret or something. This is mainly due to all of the drama it would cause because she's one of my ex's good friends, etc. etc.
But still... she texts me tonight asking if I told anyone. I said no. And she said some people told her that I said we did, which is completely bull. How should I go about dealing with this?
It's her anti-slut defence in operation. It's normal. She doesn't want her circle to think she's a slut by ****ing a her friend's ex. It's like Fight Club. What's the first rule of Fight Club?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Snow Plowman

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Max Power said:
It's her anti-slut defence in operation. It's normal. She doesn't want her circle to think she's a slut by ****ing a her friend's ex. It's like Fight Club. What's the first rule of Fight Club?
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
It could be true...

...but one question

How was the sex? Did you hold your side of the pleasure giving? To really find out basically try to get a meet up again and escalate it to sex. If this doesn't work out then...yep it was your sex game.
 

bachelor

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Don't sweat it man. If she wants to be immature let her be... Shes obviously has some issues where she's scared of everyone else finding out so let her be... Move on to some other girls lol...
 
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