"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Egoist

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Originally posted by Infinite
Egoist - Sounds good. This weekend is going to be pretty crazy with Halloween and such, so we can go out maybe the following weekend, or during the week.

I just turned 26.
I've read DYD a long time ago and recently read The Game. Have you tried Peacocking? Essentially that is wearing something outlandish to make yourself stand out in the crowd. I know it sounds kind of silly, but tried it for the first time last week and it worked amazingly. There are so many things that seem ridiculous, but they work.

I'd say I'm a 'natural' once I've got a foot in the door, but I've not gotten the girls that I really want - I want to turn things up a whole lot. I'm sick of settling for girls that I am barely attracted to. I want the super hot girls with the amazing personalities, and there are a ton of them running around this city.
I read The Game and Jugglers e-book.. Should probably read DYD since im into C&F..

Yeah, i peacock on a smaller scale usually, by dressing like a ****y ******* (think white blazer with a popped collar, aviators inside a club, etc) wearing really nice **** in general.. I probably would go much farther than that given a chance.. I probably dont need encouragement in that area.. :crackup:

And yeah, i feel you on the hotties, I feel entitled to hot girls after having some very hot AND smart girlfriends in the past, so I don't wanna settle either, actually one of my biggest motivators to keep working out and working on my game is seeing so many hot girls around where I live..

we gotta hang out, I'll PM ya.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Infinite

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Originally posted by Egoist
actually one of my biggest motivators to keep working out and working on my game is seeing so many hot girls around where I live..
I totally agree. I have my HB5 FB and she is real fun and all (asks me to tie her up, etc, etc), but then I go out on a Friday and I'm just pissed because I want some tasty chicks - and I know they want the same thing that the HB5 wants, and probably more.

Anyways, I'll send you a PM.
 

Dapper Swindler

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I just moved to Chicago and I'm also looking for wingmen.

I'm 24

My e-mail is [email protected]
 

djzulu

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Moving to Chicago

Hi,

I am relocating to Chicago in January due to a new job.

I have already visited Chicago twice, so I am familiar with some of the neighborhoods but would appreciate any advise / suggestions as to where to live - I am looking for a neighborhood that's strategically located next to bars clubs etc.

Any suggestions?

Email: [email protected]
AIM: djzulu69

Thanks!
 

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Re: Moving to Chicago

Originally posted by djzulu
Hi,

I am relocating to Chicago in January due to a new job.

I have already visited Chicago twice, so I am familiar with some of the neighborhoods but would appreciate any advise / suggestions as to where to live - I am looking for a neighborhood that's strategically located next to bars clubs etc.

Any suggestions?

Email: [email protected]
AIM: djzulu69

Thanks!
gold coast, lincoln park, river north, west loop, streetersville are all good places...

close to everything, tons of young people, close to bars/clubs/shopping/lake

where's your job at? i guess it all depends on your budget as well...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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coaster

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I am looking for the same so send let me know if you want to meet up ...I am 21
 

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hey

hi I just move to Chicago March 1, lookig for some wing mans too
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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poohead

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any chicagoers wanna hit the bars and clubs this weekend?

my friends are too afc, and i'm in a boot camp right now. i need to hit the bars if i want to hit my quota for the week.

email me if you want to party down:rockon:
 

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I did a Chicago bootcamp there two weekends ago.

Chicago has a Lair and Message Board at:
http://socialskillz.com/phpBB/index.php

My student sent me a FR/Testimonial that I haven't put up yet. It's the one where I had to tell him to kiss the girl or I'd kick his ass :)
http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2006/05/apbs-patented-100-perfect-kiss-close.html

I also met a couple local PUAs include Masterpiece, Rush, and Hostile.

Best Venue:
Le Plassage on Friday (expensive cover, but a good venue with good quality/quantity of women)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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