Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The "power and domination" angle seems to come up a lot when talking about the game, I think it's deeply f*cked up... though you have to consider sociopaths are extremely effective in relationships since they have no qualms about targeting the vulnerability of others, and they aren't crippled by their conscience in their actions. To go further:"All relationships are about power and domination...basically its dog eat dog. Eat or be eaten." I asked her why she dated sociopaths if she wanted power. She said, "Good guys are too easy. They believe what you want them to believe within a week. So so boring and pathetic! Bad boys are arrogant, especially the sociopaths. They think no one can hurt them. Their fatal flaw is their impulsitivity and assumption that they are superior. I fix that. I destory them. I make sure they end up in prison. I become vulnerable and weak to lower their guard. I wait for them to say or do something illegal, then I make sure they go off to jail. They never know what hit them! Don't worry about me. Everything I do has a purpose."
http://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/04/why_we_love_sociopaths.htmlKotsko's thesis is that we love sociopaths because sociopathy is opposed to social awkwardness. Say you're in line at the store and some jerk cuts in front of you, on purpose, and for the sake of clarification let me observe he has a Celtic cross tattooed to his shoulder and he just had sex with your girlfriend. He's a different kind of person than you. He can do things you can't, do women you can't, he sees the world's rules differently, which specifically means he understands that there are no "world's rules," that rules are decided by those with power for their own benefit. After he cuts in line, he pockets a Milky Way bar because, well, because he got away with it. My grammar is correct: he can do it since he got away with it.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
oneboy21 said:How can she be a surgeon when has ADHD?
My mother was a special ed teacher for nearly 40 years.oneboy21 said:I dont really think so, she can have intensely focus on.
It's a primary source. You have to screen for it's possible value yourself -- and you're also well off not taking any article in a respectable media outlet at face value either.FairShake said:Are you guys really analyzing a post on Yahoo answers?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.