"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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JesterX

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Ok well there is this girl i know and she has liked me for awhile but i only recently made a move on her (making out, messing around). the thing is she has a boyfriend (i dont really know much about him/never met him). and yeah she says she is sexually attracted to me and she isnt going to tell her bf about what happened or about what will happen in the future well anyway if anyone else has had this experience does the girl usually leave there bf if they like you enough? or does anyone think this is wrong? obvouisly it is her choice. and no shes not a slut her bf is her first that she has ever had sex with, but she has liked me for so long that i guess she just cant resist?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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it is very very simple.

If she genuinly has feelings for you, then she WILL leave her bf for you. If it is just a sexual thing, then just think of it has hassle free sex.

The way I look at it is, if she leaves him for you, then she is yours, if she doesnt..... then she never was.

:)
 

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Yes, this wonderful young angel seems like the perfect candidate for a girlfriend. Go ahead and ask her to marry you while you're at it. I'm sure her being unfaithful is the guy's fault.... or the fact that she's inexperienced, right? I'm sure as soon as you two get together, she'll change her ways.

Yes, i'm sure of that. I fully recommend this fine young lady. She would NEVER cheat on you. 100% sure.
 

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penguin said:
Yes, this wonderful young angel seems like the perfect candidate for a girlfriend. Go ahead and ask her to marry you while you're at it. I'm sure her being unfaithful is the guy's fault.... or the fact that she's inexperienced, right? I'm sure as soon as you two get together, she'll change her ways.

Yes, i'm sure of that. I fully recommend this fine young lady. She would NEVER cheat on you. 100% sure.
yeah i pretty much expected this answer lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fash said:
it is very very simple.

If she genuinly has feelings for you, then she WILL leave her bf for you. If it is just a sexual thing, then just think of it has hassle free sex.

The way I look at it is, if she leaves him for you, then she is yours, if she doesnt..... then she never was.

:)
To hear things like this and other peoples opinions, whats your take on it?
 

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THE GIRL WILL ONLY LEAVE HER BF IF SHE WANTS A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU.

girls with bf's are tricky situations, i've been there.
Some girls would rather lead a guy on (instead of breaking up) that the relationship is good, even tho she may not be attracted to him anymore.
Because 1-2 yr relationships is a comfort zone, you're used to the person and each other knows the other well. and the fact that girls dont want appear mean by being the dumper instead of the dumpee.

So unless your value is so high that she'll start a relationship with you, i woudlnt expect her to break up anytime soon.

if anything cheating is usually an experimental pre-requisite to an inevitable breakup down the road.
 

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Do you really want to get in too deep with a girl who cheats? That's basically the only question that needs answered.

Enjoy the "hassle-free" attention but don't get your hopes up. Girls age, they don't change.
 
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JesterX said:
...and yeah she says she is sexually attracted to me and she isnt going to tell her bf about what happened or about what will happen in the future ... and no shes not a slut her bf is her first that she has ever had sex with, but she has liked me for so long that i guess she just cant resist?
Keep deluding yourself as most chumps here do -- "I am special and the other guy (her b/f) is "abusive" "controlling", "insecure", an "afc" etc. What is a slut???? Please define!

If she is saying that she is "sexually attracted" to you then she is saying that she wants your penis! You are not "special" - do what you have to do amd put out the fire in her loins!!
 

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guys... who said he wanted to DATE her.

Just because I talk to a girl with a BF, doesn't mean I want her to be my GF.. I just want to have sex, and she is a willing perticipant.

It's not my job to be their relationship advisor. any guy would do the same to me if I wasn't taking care of my business.

If she was married? Okay, back away.. but ****, she ovbiously wants to ****, you want to ****.. what's the issue her?

However, the guys are right on the dating front.. if you are stupid enough to actually get in a relationship with her you need to be shot.

But ****, make her your LTF-Buddy, and understand that it will come to an end one day but enjoy it while it last.

I have no problem with a girl leaving a guy for another guy. If she has a better option, tip your hat and wish her the best.

But to cheat on a guy, then I couldn't date her.

In otherwords, if a girl let me **** before she broke up, I would, but I wouldn't take her seriously any longer
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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