"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cheap FUN [first] dates?

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Ok I'm sure this has been discussed to death, but let's bring it back for another round. List off your cheap fun dates and where you had them.

I'm trying to think of a few because movies and food anywhere are just getting stupid, at least for the first date. Not much convo, way too cliche, and not the cheapest in the world.

We all know about the coffee shop.

I don't live by a beach so that's out of the picture.

Ice skating/roller skating are good ones and I try them when I can because (here comes the braggin) I'm damn good at both and it definitely impresses the ladies, but most simply don't want to do anything so active. :woo:

I guess bowling is an option, but I haven't done that in a while.

Perhaps a museum? Though that sounds kinda "serious" to me. It's getting too cold for walks in the park, and although ski/snowboarding trips are awesome and great to go with a girl on, the price and time commitment scream anything but first date.

Any ideas?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Take them to the mall...

IMO can't beat it. Dosen't require money, she can do what all girls love to do which is shop and you can get alot of witty comments when she tries stuff on, you can have her put on a fashion show for you... Sexual content when you walk by Victoria Secrets...

Also has cheap food, alot of people, its a very active atmosphere... can't beat it


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Good point. Would you use it under the pretense that "I need to get something .. wanna come with" or just plainly and straight forward "let's go to the mall"?
 

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^ ^ I don't analyze things like that anymore and I'd advise you not to either


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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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- A cup of coffee date. Wanna make it more interesting? Tell her you have a surprise for her. The surprise? Bring a deck of cards or a card game (Uno, for example) and play a few rounds.

- Bowling. Last I knew, three games of bowling and a rental pair of shoes was about $10 per person.

- Extension of the mall idea - if there's a big bookstore and things are going well, bring her in there and tell her to find a book for you and you'll find one for her - in 15 minutes (no pressure to buy the books, of course) - and explain why you picked it.

- Go to a museum that you like (and that's cheap - some can run you quite a bit). It's a good idea, trust me.

- One of my favorite first dates was seeing a jazz band at a local place. Sit towards the back so you can talk, otherwise the music will be too damn loud. The fun part? Trying to communicate with someone without talking.
 

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- Extension of the mall idea - if there's a big bookstore and things are going well, bring her in there and tell her to find a book for you and you'll find one for her - in 15 minutes (no pressure to buy the books, of course) - and explain why you picked it.
Actually a pretty good idea, if i'm ever single again I'll use this. Tks

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The coffee and cards, eh seems tryhard but could work


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good idea on the mall definitely. Cards .. maybe. Dunno if the concept is too much for a first date though. 2nd/3rd + sure.
 

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selfmademob said:
Explain more about that coffee thing with the card game
It's probably better to do after the first date and when you KNOW you want to have some fun.

Play Go Fish, Old Maid, Rummy, or even Spit (now THAT games gets people going if they're good). Or Uno - Uno is great because it's easy to play and is not a typical card game. If she's into it, start betting on games - come up with non-monetary things if possible. You have to be REALLY into the game and not take it seriously. Make it more fun that it should be.
 
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