"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cheap and easy meals

CaptFinnBad

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I can cook, follow recipes, know the basics, I'm quite experimental with what I'll eat e.t.c.

I'm just not passionate about cooking and find it a chore., if cooking for myself I'll just cook the same old healthy bland sh it, and see it as fuel.

Obviously when women are over I cook for them.

I kinda have a little rotation of zero effort low cost meals, that look like I've made a little effort.

I kinda cycle though a bit. But I could do with a couple more.

1. Pre cooked Super market vacuum packed muscles that come in a white wine sauce. Literally I'll just heat them up in a saucepan, heat for 5 min and butter some crusty bread.
playe to to look a lil fancy. Done.

2. Camembert cheese. Couple of cuts. Stuff in a few bits of garlic, olive all on top. Throw in the oven for 20 min , serve with crusty bread.

3. If watching a movie I'll do Nachos. Dump a load of plain nachos on a baking tray, empty a jar of salsa, grate a load cheese, throw on some nachos. Put in oven and done.

4. Tapas (random stuff). I don't even cook. Just plate up things like olives, decent selections of meats, cheese, sun dried tomatoes, stuffed peppers e.t.c.


5. BBQ is another of a go to for me. I love to BBQ this is high effect because I absolutely love it and am in my element.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Reminds me of the time a FWB came over unexpectedly and it was the night before my weekly resupply.
I'm a decent cook, but I had absolutely F-all in terms of fresh food.
And she was gonna stay the night..

So I steamed some rice, topped with fried onions + tinned fish.
Served it up as a candlelit dinner with a $75 bottle of wine.

We had a laugh about it.
Tasty and filling and excellent fuel
 

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I'm just not passionate about cooking and find it a chore., if cooking for myself I'll just cook the same old healthy bland sh it, and see it as fuel.
You could do like me and copy how I do it for example.

I usually on a weekend (not every weekend) make huge/larger portions of some food dish or several food dishes that I like and then portion it up to daily food portions and freeze it all. That way I can everyday have healthy tasty "fast food" (cuz its already done = so very fast :)) which I just heat in the oven or the microwave and I do not need to cook that other either. :up:
 

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I can cook, follow recipes, know the basics, I'm quite experimental with what I'll eat e.t.c.

I'm just not passionate about cooking and find it a chore., if cooking for myself I'll just cook the same old healthy bland sh it, and see it as fuel.

Obviously when women are over I cook for them.

I kinda have a little rotation of zero effort low cost meals, that look like I've made a little effort.

I kinda cycle though a bit. But I could do with a couple more.

1. Pre cooked Super market vacuum packed muscles that come in a white wine sauce. Literally I'll just heat them up in a saucepan, heat for 5 min and butter some crusty bread.
playe to to look a lil fancy. Done.

2. Camembert cheese. Couple of cuts. Stuff in a few bits of garlic, olive all on top. Throw in the oven for 20 min , serve with crusty bread.

3. If watching a movie I'll do Nachos. Dump a load of plain nachos on a baking tray, empty a jar of salsa, grate a load cheese, throw on some nachos. Put in oven and done.

4. Tapas (random stuff). I don't even cook. Just plate up things like olives, decent selections of meats, cheese, sun dried tomatoes, stuffed peppers e.t.c.


5. BBQ is another of a go to for me. I love to BBQ this is high effect because I absolutely love it and am in my element.
@CaptFinnBad as a woman gotta say (1) I love that you make this effort for a woman you dig and (2) I love the menu!

In fact no.2 is often our "go to" when staying in and watching a movie except we like Brie cheese. Just a slight difference between that and Camembert but both yummy especially when baked!

Paired with a fruit like red grapes!

Love nachos too with fresh tomato salsa and melty real cheddar (versus the jarred stuff). It's healthier.

Side of butter beans sautéed in olive oil with sea salt and a dash of powdered curry or whatever spice you like, smoked paprika is also good! Versus refried beans which are SO bad health wise.

I like to switch things up, like Mexican/Indian fusion, it's fun being creative!
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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There's so much stuff man but there's ready made meals that can amke it eas.y. usually stuff like stuffed chicken breasts and chicken or steak fajitas.

I feel like its jsut a matter of having a variety of good proteins stocked, diff cutsof steak, shrimp, fish, chicken, etc, and then just vegetables to mkae along with them.. steaming makes the vegetable part easy.. steam brocolli, green beans, asparagus, zucchini, etc. its so easy to do takes about 6-7 minutes cook time Then stuff like mushrooms onions and peppers are easy to fry in a pan with olive oil and can go well with pretty much any protein.

THen you have your starches/carbs.. you can do baked potatoes in the microwave, pasta in a boiling pot, rice in a cooker, asian noodles,

Beans come usually ready in a can just gotta heat them up...
 

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somethings I like to cook

- Chef Salad

- Pasta using Paul Newman’s spaghetti sauce.

- Chicken adobo with steamed rice

- Champorado or chocolate rice porridge

- General Tsao Chicken with fried rice and eggs
 

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Hi Travel Memoir,
Your General Tsao Chicken interests me,I do Taiwanese 3 Cup Chicken seems very similar...You are very close to Taiwan,you should take a trip to check out their Ladies and cuisine.
 

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Theres a couple of more meals Id like to make like:

- Vegetarian mac and cheese shepherd pie

- grilled venison steak

- Turkey Burger with tator tots

- Vegetable stirfry with steamed rice, with soysauce, oyster sauce, a little vinegar and honey

- buttered steamed rice with cheese - butter - cream and sour cream, with sauteed brussel sprouts.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My go:

-rice + butter + kimchi + kanikama (or any other cheap precooked fish)
-boiled eggs
-canned sardines
 

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If you would like the fancy restaurant salad experience:

1. Wedge salad (so cheap/easy its ridiculous)....Get 1 head iceberg lettuce. Core it & quarter it. You get 4 servings doing this. Serve each quarter on a plate drizzeled in blue cheese dressing (I add blue cheese chunks too), halved cherry tomatoes & bacon bits (I use either real bacon cooked for 20 minutes in the oven at 400 degrees or prepacked precooked organic bacon).

2. Baked salmon or arctic char (my favorite): Place fish skinside down in a glass baking dish over a slight drizzle of olive oil. Salt & lemon pepper fish. Bake at 350 degrees for 18 to 20 minutes or until the white fat is showing opaque on & around the fish. Serve with baked zuchini squash (cut off ends, cut in strips, drizzle with this ribbon of olive oil + salt + black pepper, cook at 350-400 until squash looks slightly browned and somewhat translucent. Don't burn.

Easy & tasty!
 

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I've bought a double basket air fryer, each basket can have it's own temperature setting and timer. A cool feature is that you can press a button so both baskets to finish exactly the same time, even if you have different times on both (it will automatically delay the basket with the shortest time ).

For me I think this is going to be a game changer once I properly get to grips with it and nail down some good recipes.
 

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Theres a couple of more meals Id like to make like:

- Vegetarian mac and cheese shepherd pie

- grilled venison steak

- Turkey Burger with tator tots

- Vegetable stirfry with steamed rice, with soysauce, oyster sauce, a little vinegar and honey

- buttered steamed rice with cheese - butter - cream and sour cream, with sauteed brussel sprouts.
Hi TravelMemoir,
(Or Anyone)....A favour:I make Hamburger Meat Patties,technique is fine,but they never taste much good so ingredients only what do you add to a pound of ground Beef please.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hi Captain Finn,
Picked up on your Mussells...I like them too,buy pre cooked N.Z Green Lips....I start on the Stove Top with a little Oil add a chopped up Red Onion,some Garlic,a rasher of chopped Breakfast Bacon fat removed,add a splash of good White Wine then throw in the Mussells,just a few minutes at good heat will do,they become too tough if left...A couple of slices of fresh Bread as you suggest.
 

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Example from this morning:

350g liquid egg whites
huge handful of chopped kale
A bunch of broccoli florets
Mushrooms
Baby carrots

Cook on low-medium for 10 mins covered.

Put in a bowl, add fresh scallions and 40g of cheese with some Sriracha.

High protein, tons of veggies, easy and quick to make and cleanup is a breeze.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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