"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've never been in a relationship, but I've had onenitis plenty of times.

My question: is it possible to start a relationship with a chick who you DON'T have a total onenitis crush on, and then develop the onenitis feeling with her later?

After all, onenitis is beautiful if it's the girl you have a LTR with. It only sucks when you have onenitis with a girl that doesn't care about you.

I get plenty of girls who are interested in me... but I reject pretty much all of them because I don't get onenitis with them at first sight. Can I develop this later? Or does it have to be love at first sight?

Hanging out with a girl I have onenitis on is like walking on clouds and feeling euphoric. Hanging out with any other chick is just like hanging out with a guy for me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Are you asking if you should settle in hopes that she'll get better with age? Either that or them training you to become p-whipped?
 
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Okay, oneitis is totally obsessing over one chick you cant have, or one that broke up with you and cant get over.

This is what dating is for. You go out, see if you're compatible. If so,you keep going. How can you get oneitis with someone you barely know? It would just be a physical infatuation.

I dunno what to say to this, just game some more chicks and go with the flow. The way it works is you find one that has "oneitis" for you
 
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Oneitis isnt that bad if you are extremely self-controlled can manage yourself through the hardships of a breakup. Personally, I find the intimate connection to be very rewarding and fulfilling.
 
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Originally posted by California Love
Oneitis isnt that bad if you are extremely self-controlled can manage yourself through the hardships of a breakup. Personally, I find the intimate connection to be very rewarding and fulfilling.
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But there isn't any connect when a guy has "one-itis." He's overly infatuated in one woman and the feelings aren't reciprocated. The guy is putting all his efforts into this one woman in hopes that she'll (eventually) "come around" to appreciating his one sided admiration.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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But there isn't any connect when a guy has "one-itis." He's overly infatuated in one woman and the feelings aren't reciprocated. The guy is putting all his efforts into this one woman in hopes that she's "come around" to appreciating his one sided admiration.

lets call that the official definition
 
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