chasing "in love" feeling

[wiggadude]

I've never been in a relationship, but I've had onenitis plenty of times.

My question: is it possible to start a relationship with a chick who you DON'T have a total onenitis crush on, and then develop the onenitis feeling with her later?

After all, onenitis is beautiful if it's the girl you have a LTR with. It only sucks when you have onenitis with a girl that doesn't care about you.

I get plenty of girls who are interested in me... but I reject pretty much all of them because I don't get onenitis with them at first sight. Can I develop this later? Or does it have to be love at first sight?

Hanging out with a girl I have onenitis on is like walking on clouds and feeling euphoric. Hanging out with any other chick is just like hanging out with a guy for me.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Are you asking if you should settle in hopes that she'll get better with age? Either that or them training you to become p-whipped?

 

[johnny_chase]

Okay, oneitis is totally obsessing over one chick you cant have, or one that broke up with you and cant get over.

This is what dating is for. You go out, see if you're compatible. If so,you keep going. How can you get oneitis with someone you barely know? It would just be a physical infatuation.

I dunno what to say to this, just game some more chicks and go with the flow. The way it works is you find one that has "oneitis" for you

 

[California Love]

Oneitis isnt that bad if you are extremely self-controlled can manage yourself through the hardships of a breakup. Personally, I find the intimate connection to be very rewarding and fulfilling.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by California Love
Oneitis isnt that bad if you are extremely self-controlled can manage yourself through the hardships of a breakup. Personally, I find the intimate connection to be very rewarding and fulfilling.

But there isn't any connect when a guy has "one-itis." He's overly infatuated in one woman and the feelings aren't reciprocated. The guy is putting all his efforts into this one woman in hopes that she'll (eventually) "come around" to appreciating his one sided admiration.

 

[johnny_chase]

But there isn't any connect when a guy has "one-itis." He's overly infatuated in one woman and the feelings aren't reciprocated. The guy is putting all his efforts into this one woman in hopes that she's "come around" to appreciating his one sided admiration.

lets call that the official definition