Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I think the fact that a 25 year old is coming to this forum asking for help on what to say to a 16 year old to get her to like him proves that theoryBvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.Bvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Completely exaggerated man. you should read my original post for this thread.ligyron said:I think the fact that a 25 year old is coming to this forum asking for help on what to say to a 16 year old to get her to like him proves that theory
ChaoticGamer said:Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I guess you would know - since it happened to you 4X already!Moonlight said:Oh, by the way, women between ages 13 and 30 get pregnant almost instantaneously. I hope you have enough brains to use protection since you don't seem to know that you don't need to bust a girl's balls - just let her enjoy you.
Anyhow, this thread got closed, so I wanted to just post my psycho-analysis here:I've experienced feelings and needs that, as I look back, were mystifying to me now. Why, why, why was I so driven to have children and willing to do ANYTHING to get pregnant?
That's pretty easy to change. Simply use a different computer - a friend's, workplace, library, etc. Or a proxy.ItsNotMeCheckMyIP said:So...feel free to compare IPs...mine will not match to the ones in question.
Now...back to getting my feet tickled by my MUCH younger boyfriend.
Riigghhtttttt...I am Wyldfire. Don't worry...I'm not staying. Someone informed me of this little debate, so I am here only to straighten it out.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Or more likely don't WANT one their own age.Bvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Bravo!bigjohnson said:Or more likely don't WANT one their own age.Been a middle adged woman long?
You haven't posted here in 4 1/2 months. I've had STRs last longer than that.ItsNotMeCheckMyIP said:I haven't posted here in ages
Wow...you've actually kept track of how long it has been since I was here? Damn, Des, that's rather sad. I certainly haven't kept track. Ages actually means lifetimes, eons, etc., and trying to pick apart a common phrase people use as if it is significant is rather silly.Desdinova said:You haven't posted here in 4 1/2 months. I've had STRs last longer than that.
Web definition for age: long time: a prolonged period of time; "we've known each other for ages"; "I haven't been there for years and years"
Wyld, you're addicted to the drama that this forum created for you, and I lost the bet on how long it would be before you came back. You have no self-control and cannot break free from the addiction you have to this message forum. Here's a site that may help you with your problem:
http://www.netaddiction.com/
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ChaoticGamer said:Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.