I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think the fact that a 25 year old is coming to this forum asking for help on what to say to a 16 year old to get her to like him proves that theoryBvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.Bvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Completely exaggerated man. you should read my original post for this thread.ligyron said:I think the fact that a 25 year old is coming to this forum asking for help on what to say to a 16 year old to get her to like him proves that theory
ChaoticGamer said:Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I guess you would know - since it happened to you 4X already!Moonlight said:Oh, by the way, women between ages 13 and 30 get pregnant almost instantaneously. I hope you have enough brains to use protection since you don't seem to know that you don't need to bust a girl's balls - just let her enjoy you.
Anyhow, this thread got closed, so I wanted to just post my psycho-analysis here:I've experienced feelings and needs that, as I look back, were mystifying to me now. Why, why, why was I so driven to have children and willing to do ANYTHING to get pregnant?
That's pretty easy to change. Simply use a different computer - a friend's, workplace, library, etc. Or a proxy.ItsNotMeCheckMyIP said:So...feel free to compare IPs...mine will not match to the ones in question.
Now...back to getting my feet tickled by my MUCH younger boyfriend.
Riigghhtttttt...I am Wyldfire. Don't worry...I'm not staying. Someone informed me of this little debate, so I am here only to straighten it out.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Or more likely don't WANT one their own age.Bvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Bravo!bigjohnson said:Or more likely don't WANT one their own age.Been a middle adged woman long?
You haven't posted here in 4 1/2 months. I've had STRs last longer than that.ItsNotMeCheckMyIP said:I haven't posted here in ages
Wow...you've actually kept track of how long it has been since I was here? Damn, Des, that's rather sad. I certainly haven't kept track. Ages actually means lifetimes, eons, etc., and trying to pick apart a common phrase people use as if it is significant is rather silly.Desdinova said:You haven't posted here in 4 1/2 months. I've had STRs last longer than that.
Web definition for age: long time: a prolonged period of time; "we've known each other for ages"; "I haven't been there for years and years"
Wyld, you're addicted to the drama that this forum created for you, and I lost the bet on how long it would be before you came back. You have no self-control and cannot break free from the addiction you have to this message forum. Here's a site that may help you with your problem:
http://www.netaddiction.com/
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ChaoticGamer said:Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.