Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think the fact that a 25 year old is coming to this forum asking for help on what to say to a 16 year old to get her to like him proves that theoryBvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.Bvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Completely exaggerated man. you should read my original post for this thread.ligyron said:I think the fact that a 25 year old is coming to this forum asking for help on what to say to a 16 year old to get her to like him proves that theory
ChaoticGamer said:Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I guess you would know - since it happened to you 4X already!Moonlight said:Oh, by the way, women between ages 13 and 30 get pregnant almost instantaneously. I hope you have enough brains to use protection since you don't seem to know that you don't need to bust a girl's balls - just let her enjoy you.
Anyhow, this thread got closed, so I wanted to just post my psycho-analysis here:I've experienced feelings and needs that, as I look back, were mystifying to me now. Why, why, why was I so driven to have children and willing to do ANYTHING to get pregnant?
That's pretty easy to change. Simply use a different computer - a friend's, workplace, library, etc. Or a proxy.ItsNotMeCheckMyIP said:So...feel free to compare IPs...mine will not match to the ones in question.
Now...back to getting my feet tickled by my MUCH younger boyfriend.
Riigghhtttttt...I am Wyldfire. Don't worry...I'm not staying. Someone informed me of this little debate, so I am here only to straighten it out.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Or more likely don't WANT one their own age.Bvbidd said:I can understand young teenage girls being attractive in an innocent kind of way, but usually guys who go that young go for only one reason, they can't get a girl their own age.
Bravo!bigjohnson said:Or more likely don't WANT one their own age.Been a middle adged woman long?
You haven't posted here in 4 1/2 months. I've had STRs last longer than that.ItsNotMeCheckMyIP said:I haven't posted here in ages
Wow...you've actually kept track of how long it has been since I was here? Damn, Des, that's rather sad. I certainly haven't kept track. Ages actually means lifetimes, eons, etc., and trying to pick apart a common phrase people use as if it is significant is rather silly.Desdinova said:You haven't posted here in 4 1/2 months. I've had STRs last longer than that.
Web definition for age: long time: a prolonged period of time; "we've known each other for ages"; "I haven't been there for years and years"
Wyld, you're addicted to the drama that this forum created for you, and I lost the bet on how long it would be before you came back. You have no self-control and cannot break free from the addiction you have to this message forum. Here's a site that may help you with your problem:
http://www.netaddiction.com/
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ChaoticGamer said:Not entirely true... and it is a little harsh to say but a girl's beauty expires really quickly.