"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Changed my mind, texting is kind of stupid.

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I was with this girl the other day who was sitting there exchanging
texts with some guy she just started dating or whatever you want to
call it.

It just seemed kind of lame. The whole time I'm thinking, just f*cking
call her dude.

:p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've been busy as sh*t lately, so I've been playing the text game with friends and coworkers for meetups/work and such.

This problem has transitioned to my personal life recently, when I made the mistake of texting a girl whose number I pulled last week.

Without thinking, I texted her on Monday offering to meet up this Wednesday evening for a drink. Did not hear back. I deleted her number.

I'm not saying that she didn't respond BECAUSE I texted her. But if she was on the fence about me (rare for women to be on the fence about anyone) it definitely didn't help that I slipped up and didn't just call.

See? Love Shogun makes some stupid mistakes sometimes, too.

I'll be astounded if I receive any sort of reply.
 

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interesting perspective from the other side.
it helps to know how to text well though too (that is, not typing too much, too soon, too often, or too poorly).

for the plate i'm primarily interested in, i changed her title field in my blackberry address book to say ###STOP###. So, when I go to text/bbm/call her, it will remind me to stop being a chump. it's worked wonders.
 

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My text was something along these lines:

Hey, it's Love Shogun. 9pm Wednesday for a drink?

It's to the point, but it's not like a call. On a call, I don't sit around waiting like a jackass.
 

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st_99 said:
I was with this girl the other day who was sitting there exchanging
texts with some guy she just started dating or whatever you want to
call it.

It just seemed kind of lame. The whole time I'm thinking, just f*cking
call her dude.

:p
you seem to be under the impression that whatever you say is law here, it's not like your opinions matter anyways:rolleyes:.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

st_99

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teacha said:
you seem to be under the impression that whatever you say is law here, it's not like your opinions matter anyways:rolleyes:.
Its always an opinion, nothing less, nothing more. Take it for what
it is.
 
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