"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Change.

Kidd

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When I first found this site, it helped me see things from a different perspective. So, I did what I thought was the way to fix things. I lied to myself and made myself believe I was someone that I was no where near. and it worked. For over a year, Ive been blind, until 3 months ago.

That is when I discovered that CHANGE comes from conflict. CHANGE comes from going out there, taking a risk, succeeding/crashing, and learning from it. If you keep sitting there doing nothing, you will get no where.

I'm a better person than I was. I can feel it in my bones. And it's because I finally took some ****ing risks in life, crashed and burned, and learned from it. I've finally realized it and I grew the balls to take action. And guess what, it's the best feeling in the world.

If you are unhappy with where you are, get ****ing ready. If you want change, you are going to have to take some risks.

You are going to have to FACE your fears and be a man. Lying to yourself will not help. You can lie to yourself all you want; you can find millions of excuses to why you shouldnt approach that girl, why you shouldnt go lift today, or why you shouldnt study for your test. But in the end, YOU ARE NOT being a man, you are just feeding yourself with bull**** and digging your own hole deeper.

That's what it all comes down to: you either do something or you don't. No excuses. No more lying to yourself. And believe me once you start actually doing and working to improve, improvement will come.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dogfish

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thanks :)
 

08aisaac

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True that, practice makes perfect. It's only highschool, this is the best time to **** up bad, when it doesn't matter, except for grades, it's mostly to learn life skills. Pretty good advice.
 

Skilla_Staz

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Its good to see that you've come to the realization that ACTING the part, isn't BEING the part. You need to actually go out and become a better person. Actually talk to girls. Actually improve your confidence. Actually form a real 'aura' for yourself. Welcome aboard.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dannowillbookem

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this is what i had to learn for so many months.

this is a great thread here. im sending it to vince.
 
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