"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I agree with Nocturnal. You can convince yourself something is true through repetition regardless of whether it really is or not, but do you really want to lie to yourself? False confidence often comes off as arrogance because you end up acting like you're better than you really are. I say take the opposite approach, build a true mindset from experience and self improvement. Instead of saying "I am awesome, say "I can be awesome if I put forth the effort to change myself."

Other than the affirmations part, though, I found the original post to be very good. The self ideal, self image, and self esteem part was especially interesting; I hadn't heard it put that way before.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think that affirmations are only part of the solution, because you can affirm something as much as you want only to go and prove yourself wrong five minutes later - I do it all the time, and only become aware of it when it's too late.
 
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I'm bumping this up; this is the best thinking man's article to improving his life found on don juan
 
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BUMP!!!

"i like my self"
"i am the best"
"i have no fear!"
 
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As far as the false mindset debate going on in this thread I have an easy solution that works for me atleast. I don't think "I'm awesome!" or, like Stuart Smalley (LOL) "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it! people like me". Instead I think "I'm awesome because I'm taking my life in MY hands. I AM going to reach my goals with women, my physical health, my career/dreams, my spiritual life, etc. BECAUSE I CAN and I have no reason not to, regardless of how long it may take."

Lol. Ok so that's a pretty long sentence to repeat in your head, so usually I just note that as a mental reminder to myself once or twice a day and the rest of the time just affirm it with a quick "I'm a BAAAAAAAD mother" or "Geez, I'm so bada$$".

Suits my tastes more than "I'm a goooooooooood person. yup. That's me! good good good."

-Drew
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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similar to 100 ways to motivate yourself
 
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