"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I agree with Nocturnal. You can convince yourself something is true through repetition regardless of whether it really is or not, but do you really want to lie to yourself? False confidence often comes off as arrogance because you end up acting like you're better than you really are. I say take the opposite approach, build a true mindset from experience and self improvement. Instead of saying "I am awesome, say "I can be awesome if I put forth the effort to change myself."

Other than the affirmations part, though, I found the original post to be very good. The self ideal, self image, and self esteem part was especially interesting; I hadn't heard it put that way before.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I think that affirmations are only part of the solution, because you can affirm something as much as you want only to go and prove yourself wrong five minutes later - I do it all the time, and only become aware of it when it's too late.
 
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I'm bumping this up; this is the best thinking man's article to improving his life found on don juan
 
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BUMP!!!

"i like my self"
"i am the best"
"i have no fear!"
 
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As far as the false mindset debate going on in this thread I have an easy solution that works for me atleast. I don't think "I'm awesome!" or, like Stuart Smalley (LOL) "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it! people like me". Instead I think "I'm awesome because I'm taking my life in MY hands. I AM going to reach my goals with women, my physical health, my career/dreams, my spiritual life, etc. BECAUSE I CAN and I have no reason not to, regardless of how long it may take."

Lol. Ok so that's a pretty long sentence to repeat in your head, so usually I just note that as a mental reminder to myself once or twice a day and the rest of the time just affirm it with a quick "I'm a BAAAAAAAD mother" or "Geez, I'm so bada$$".

Suits my tastes more than "I'm a goooooooooood person. yup. That's me! good good good."

-Drew
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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similar to 100 ways to motivate yourself
 
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