change your thinking change your life

[Satori]

I agree with Nocturnal. You can convince yourself something is true through repetition regardless of whether it really is or not, but do you really want to lie to yourself? False confidence often comes off as arrogance because you end up acting like you're better than you really are. I say take the opposite approach, build a true mindset from experience and self improvement. Instead of saying "I am awesome, say "I can be awesome if I put forth the effort to change myself."

Other than the affirmations part, though, I found the original post to be very good. The self ideal, self image, and self esteem part was especially interesting; I hadn't heard it put that way before.

 

[Visceral]

I think that affirmations are only part of the solution, because you can affirm something as much as you want only to go and prove yourself wrong five minutes later - I do it all the time, and only become aware of it when it's too late.

 

[Bilogomja]

I'm bumping this up; this is the best thinking man's article to improving his life found on don juan

 

[muttley]

BUMP!!!

"i like my self"
"i am the best"
"i have no fear!"

 

[Drewgie]

As far as the false mindset debate going on in this thread I have an easy solution that works for me atleast. I don't think "I'm awesome!" or, like Stuart Smalley (LOL) "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it! people like me". Instead I think "I'm awesome because I'm taking my life in MY hands. I AM going to reach my goals with women, my physical health, my career/dreams, my spiritual life, etc. BECAUSE I CAN and I have no reason not to, regardless of how long it may take."

Lol. Ok so that's a pretty long sentence to repeat in your head, so usually I just note that as a mental reminder to myself once or twice a day and the rest of the time just affirm it with a quick "I'm a BAAAAAAAD mother" or "Geez, I'm so bada$$".

Suits my tastes more than "I'm a goooooooooood person. yup. That's me! good good good."

-Drew

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

similar to 100 ways to motivate yourself

 

[Carnegie]

I can achieve anything I put my mind to it. Great thread!

 

[Riddler]

nice

 

[seangosu]

This stuff is GOLD. First post woohoo