"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mission

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Hey guys,

As we know, none of us on this site use our real names, we disguise ourselves underneath our aliases. As much as this is a fun tool for forum use, I think it also gives us a bit of a double personality, are we really the person we say we are online? How do we know that the posted field reports aren't made up? How do we take what we learn on this site to the streets, bars, and clubs?

Here is a piece of advice I am going to share with you that helps me immensely when I am feeling out of my flow. My whole life I have been Adam (that is my real name, now you know) Everything about Adam is my whole life, all the memories, all past relationships, everything. So sometimes being Adam can be overwhelming because it feels like all my old emotions come up. So when I feel like I really need to get to the core and figure out what my game is about, I let myself become Mission. Sure, it is just my online persona, but I tell myself that Mission was born when I first started looking on mASF at fastseduction.com; I tell myself that what Mission knows is everything that has happened since mASF. And strangely, it helps me alot, it helps me get into a good frame. I think, "how would Mission act, how would Mission walk, how would Mission talk to girls"; as wierd as it sounds guys, it works extremely well, you can feel an almost immiediate change in your attitude. Of course deep down I am still Adam, I am still myself and I have the same interests and life goals, Mission is my identity when it comes to girls, I no longer think, how would Adam deal with women, I think, "how would Mission deal with this girl". Just try this guys, think of yourself as reborn at the moment that you signed up for an account on mASF or sosuave.com. All you know about women is what you have learned on this site, keep past experiences with girls in the past.

--Mission
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Great way to think about things. Your online persona is you, and I can easily see how this is a better mindset than "How would a Don Juan handle this?"...I use this name on a few websites/accounts--"SupaJ" is a very old nickname of mine given by an uncle...my real name is Jon. My uncle is an incredibly cool guy--if anybody else calls me SupaJ it sounds retarded. He's a confident dude. To me, so is SupaJ.
 

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It's a good idea, but getting caught up in your 'other personality' may not be the best idea. Why not have Adam and Mission become one person? This way you would act instinctually, instead of having to think.
 

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My real name is Tavi so theres no big diferrence, DJ all the way :D
 

Mission

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Skilla_Staz said:
It's a good idea, but getting caught up in your 'other personality' may not be the best idea. Why not have Adam and Mission become one person? This way you would act instinctually, instead of having to think.
Yeah thats the general concept, this technique was something I would use when I felt like I was going back to my AFC ways, kind of a way of keeping yourself in check. As it is now, they are one person.

--Mission
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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