"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Centralized thread for Field Reports?

Should there be a field-report only thread?

  • yes

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  • no

    Votes: 0 0.0%

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Luveno

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I have a suggestion:

There have been many posts on this forum about how things have gone "downhill" lately. As I have only joined the forum less than a year ago, I cannot really comment on that.

My suggestion is to have a large forum devoted to field reports and thats it. This would allow those who are looking for improvement on their game to post somewhere where it is centralized.

Also, a centralized FR section would make it easier for DJs or RAFCs to read and gain knowledge from the experiences of others.

The complaints about how many "useless" posts crowd good ones, such as FRs, would cease due to this new streamlined approach.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So pimp its scary

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Why would we do that?? Almost nobody writes FR's... and those that dissapear very quick compared to the typical posts.
 

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We used to have a section for "Suggestions and Feedback" but anything that was suggested was never implemented.

And yes one of the suggestions were for a FR section but nothing ever came of it.

I am in favor of such a section. The problems with the board are:

-Too many of the same questions getting asked over and over

-no field reports (see above)

-too many trolls and KJ's

-there aren't enough people here who actually go out and do stuff, they just post, post POST
 

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Originally posted by So pimp its scary
Why would we do that?? Almost nobody writes FR's... and those that dissapear very quick compared to the typical posts.
If there was a special section for FRs, they wouldn't disappear. This would in turn give people more incentive to write them, for they wouldn't be lost among the repetitive questions that are a plague of this board.
 

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Hey, I'm all for the idea... I quite often post my FR's that are worth writing... although I don't expect that it would end the plague.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm bumping this up.
 

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The main problem with the regular discussion thread is that if one posts a field report, it gets buried by the multitude of questions and comments. I'm not saying that all of these comments are useless, only that the sheer number of them clutter the board.

If a new user(because isn't that what we are here for, to improve the game of men across the world?) comes to the site, after reading the DJ bible of course, and wants to read or post about real-world experience, it becomes a chore for this person to do so(time is of the essence of a true DJ). Digging into the discussion board for FRs is a waste of time and nearly impossible(using the search command will overlook some field reports not labelled with "FR" or "Field report").

Also, those who would like feedback on their field reports would be better served if there was a thread solely for field reports, for the same reasons of cluttering mentioned above.

The poll so far suggests that a new thread would be beneficial to the site. Of course, the sample size is small right now. Hopefully more people will show their opinion and take a stand on the issue.
 
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